The strange hand on the bum, the need to be pretty, the fact that we carry the mental load around with us without complaint: all of this seems to be normal. But it’s only because we’ve learned that. High time to throw a few beliefs overboard.
Tired of the stupid sayings on the street, the orgasm gap, or the fact that you are solely responsible for the whole family? Congratulation! Because we don’t even question a lot of what we suffer from – because we were taught from an early age that it’s all quite normal.
In order to finally clear up a few intolerable conditions, it is first necessary to be aware of the values and attitudes that we have practically absorbed with our mother’s milk. In order to be able to gradually say goodbye to beliefs that are not good for us because they put the interests of others (men) in the foreground.
On the “Buzzfeed” portal, women exchanged views on things that are considered normal but should not be. Here you can read the eight most important articles.
1) Sexual harassment
“I am bothered by the level of sexual abuse and harassment that prevails in our society. Most of the women I know were molested when they were elementary school and that is considered normal.”
2) That giving birth shouldn’t be a big thing
“The way medicine deals with childbirth. I’ve seen documentary about it (I have no children myself), and what really annoyed me was the condescension of women who are experiencing what may be the worst pain of their lives And how it is seen as no big deal if YOUR GENITALS ARE LITERALLY RIPPED. ”
3) To be called “girl”
“That women are called ‘girls’. Whether consciously or unconsciously, ‘girl’ implies a lack of maturity and, consequently, a lack of respect. Once I tried an episode The Bachelor to look, but I couldn’t stand how many times the women were called ‘girls’. ”
4) Take on the family mental load without complaint
“I know far too many women who think it’s normal to do most of the household chores and child-rearing, plus all the mental load of family work. Even if they have a job. And they manage theirs too Men as if they were children who cannot be expected to keep their appointments and buy their clothes or things for the children or the vacation without having to be reminded or helped. ”
5) That we should have sex, but our pleasure counts less than his
“That women feel like they are expected to have sex, but at the same time their pleasure is seen as secondary. I saw this many times when I was younger and I’m sure I’m not the only one. If I do kissed a man, I thought, now I have to have sex with him too, because he’s hot now. I thought I have to do that. And then also this feeling that the orgasm is mostly about him. Only when I got older I realized how harmful this thinking is. ”
6) That hitting is a minor offense
“Inappropriate behavior by boys towards girls. When a boy hits a girl, they say,” what loves itself teases itself. “The little boy grows up with the idea that violence has no consequences and may later hit women too The circle closes. ”
7) That we should always smile
“Telling me to smile when the hell I don’t want to. I used to do it when I was younger because I felt so uncomfortable.”
8) Dress up girls in such a way that they can barely play
“Dressing little girls in such a way that they can’t move around freely. A four-year-old shouldn’t have to go without precious games because her clothes or hairstyle could suffer. Her looks should be the very last thing she thinks about. It makes me so angry When little girls sit and watch their brothers and cousins play wild games because their parents put them in a dress and expensive shoes. ”