Contract masturbation and dating and you get “masturdating”. Or the art of being self-sufficient. There are many benefits to doing solo activities, such as boosting self-confidence and self-esteem. What if you self-date before you date others?
by Marion Dos Santos Clara
No, this is not a new sexual practice or yet another flirting technique. “Masturdating”, a contraction of the words masturbation and dating, quite simply means the fact of organizing solo dates without expecting anything from others.
What is masturdating?
Masturdating was used for the first time in 2015, on the set of Late Show by Conan O’Brien, an American talk show. This term represents the art of being self-sufficient. The principle ? Plan a date with yourself, planning a little special time.
Going out for dinner on your own, going out to the movies or a concert alone, going for a drink on the terrace … Masturdating allows you to get together with yourself. And then, it must be admitted, the big positive point is that you will not need to debate for hours on the choice of film, the exhibition to see or the restaurant to test. So certainly, in the midst of a global pandemic, it is difficult to organize outings to restaurants, movies or museums. But this does not mean that it is impossible toself-date ! The proof, on TikTok, the trend has been buzzing for several months.
Despite the sanitary restrictions, you can still plan a solo night in front of Netflix, with a pizza, or a lovingly cooked dinner. Except this time around, you’re going to savor this moment 100%. The situation can also benefit people who found it difficult to take the plunge to the restaurant or the movie solo, especially because of the gaze of others. So now is the perfect time to gently masturbate!
Masturdating, good for self-esteem
The idea behind this term is to feel good whether you are alone or with someone. Masturdating actually advocatesself love and the pleasure of reconnecting with oneself. Dating yourself is a great way to discover who you are and find the things that make you happy. By taking the time to get to know yourself, you learn to be good with yourself rather than making your happiness dependent on others. So choose a movie or a good book, cook yourself a little meal that you like and love!