Having a happy child is all a parent wants! Many books, advice, tips are available on the internet or in our libraries to help us in this task, but if you are looking to go further, this child psychiatrist says he has the recipe for happiness. We explain to you!
Like any self-respecting parent, we always try to ensure that our children are in the best possible condition and that they are happy, but let’s be honest that still can’t be the case. We drink advice or tips of all kinds, but a child, like an adult, goes through phases whether happy or unhappy and experience their own emotions. It is an American child psychiatrist Dr Tovah Klein who explains it at the microphone of CNBC: “ We all think the way to raise our children to be happy is to make them happy. (…) It’s not an all-time feeling…. children are allowed to be angry, sad, unhappy in some way.»
This is why this same child psychiatrist advises parents not to always be in search of happiness for their child. She explains in one of her last works as well as on her networks that for a child to know happiness, he must also be allowed to know unhappiness. It may sound weird, but she develops her thought by saying that in order for a child to know the feeling of happiness, he must go through misfortune and learn to choose the happiest path.
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The upset or frustration of normal feelings for a child
Even if it is natural to want to comfort your child when he is upset or hurt, the psychiatrist explains that rushing towards a child who is badly to alleviate his problem will not leave him the opportunity to understand the background. How many times does a parent give in to a misbehaving child or a whim to do vent his frustration . A situation that parents must avoid, she analyzes for the magazine Today: “ Strength comes from being able to have these pretty intense emotions, like anger, managing it and knowing that mom or dad is always there for me, they’re not mad at me, they’re not going to push me aside “.
For the child psychiatrist, a child wholearns to grow by managing frustration, anger or upsetis a child who understands his emotions and who grows up prosperously. It is important not to repress a negative feeling at the risk that a child perceives it as something bad or even abnormal in his life.An emotion whether positive or negative must be accepted and managed by the child.