Adele: The singer is going through a rollercoaster of emotions

Sometimes Adele looks like she’s finally found happiness, other times she’s devastated. GALA explains what’s behind their rollercoaster of emotions.

She is the winner of the evening: three of the four most important prizes at the Brit Awards go to Adele, 33. On the red carpet she also outshines everyone in her tailored Armani Privé gown with a wasp waist, in which she is reminiscent of a Disney princess. She demonstratively holds her teardrop-shaped diamond ring up to the cameras. Let the world wonder if she’s already engaged to boyfriend Rich Paul, 40!

With her new album, Adele is also processing the separation from Simon Konecki

Actually an all-round successful evening. But when Adele accepts the award for best album, her acceptance speech is overwhelmed with emotions. “I would like to dedicate this award to my son Angelo – and Simon, his father. I am very proud of myself for releasing this album that is so personal,” she explains – and cannot hold back the tears. On her new album “30” – which became the best-selling of 2021 in just six weeks – the singer has processed the separation from her husband, the loneliness and desperation that came with it, as well as her feelings of guilt towards her son Angelo, 9.

When Adele receives the award for best album for “30”, she bursts into tears.

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Adele is going through a rollercoaster of emotions

Feelings that are apparently still much more present than she admits to herself. On the drive home, Adele looks sad and dejected, exhausted and withdrawn. But the following evening she celebrates again in a London drag club. She seems like she’s on a constant emotional ups and downs that she can’t quite control. As if she didn’t know how she really felt. What’s happening?

A few weeks ago, Adele took to Instagram after having to cancel her Las Vegas show just 24 hours before the premiere. “It’s not ready yet!” she cried uncontrollably. Along with a backstage argument with set designer Esmeralda Devlin, it also seemed like Adele wasn’t ready for the big show just yet. Her extreme stage fright, her fear of failure, force her to perfection: When Adele enters the stage, everything has to be 150 percent perfect. At least. She can’t use an unstable nerve costume there.

The singer gets support from him – right?

Simon Konecki, 47, used to be on hand in such cases, her ex-husband. He geared his everyday life entirely to the needs of his wife. Adele’s new boyfriend, US sports consultant Rich Paul, cannot and does not want to do that. “He takes his job very seriously and travels a lot,” a friend told GALA. Paul is also concerned about his independence and wants to continue to take it easy, even after almost a year of relationship. The couple is said to have had a heated argument over the phone; Adele felt let down by him in Las Vegas, it was all too much drama for him.

Sports consultant Rich Paul is her new boyfriend - and busy.

Sports consultant Rich Paul is her new boyfriend – and busy.

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Adele’s fears catch up with her

That opens up old wounds. A perceived unpredictability of the partner is something that fuels their fears. A source said: “Adele is a very demanding partner. She’s looking for the perfect love. It’s just too much for a laid-back guy like Rich Paul.” The fact that she even joked on the “Graham Norton” talk show that she might want to have a baby in 2023 reinforces the impression that she wants Paul to be the ultimate proof of love. In an interview with GALA, psychologist Katharina Ohana (“Narcissists like us – striving for upgrading”) analyzes: “Adele seems to have little stable independence in her relationships with men. Everything is great when newly in love, then it quickly turns into the opposite, and big Disappointment determines her condition.” A roller coaster ride of emotions.

The singer processes life in her song

Adele, whose middle name is Blue (also used as a metaphor for “sad”), was four years old when her parents separated. Her mother, Penny, became pregnant when she was 18. She kept the baby, although the relationship was difficult because Adele’s father, Mark, drank too much. More and more until he left the family. Adele worked through her sadness, anger and disappointment by eating burgers and fries – and writing beautiful songs.

I’m one of the most complicated people I know.

What flows out of her in her music surprises herself. The separation from her husband three years ago created similar fears as the loss of her father once did. “Simon was my lifeline,” explained Adele, “he saved me from falling.”

Your healing takes time

To get her panic attacks under control after the breakup, Adele does a lot of sport, loses weight and goes into therapy. She halves but feels stronger than ever. Speaking to Oprah Winfrey, Adele says reconciling with her father before his death in May 2021 helped her release the hurt little girl inside. But to really overcome the trauma of her childhood, it still takes time and a lot of patience with yourself.

The past few weeks have shown that she is not yet as stable as she thought: under stress, everything becomes too much for her, her feelings are going crazy. Then she thinks she needs a partner to support her. Psychologist Ohana: “Adele wishes that men who are just as ruthless and selfish as her father could finally get what he couldn’t give her.” After the Brit Awards, Adele was asked what she would do now: “I go to McDonald’s and then home.”

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