relationship killer
Almost every one of us makes THIS mistake – and it is fatal!
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Nobody is perfect, that’s a good thing. However, there is one bug that we should fix. And as soon as possible, because otherwise he could end our relationship…
Anyone who has personal problems talks to other people about them. It’s that simple, isn’t it? Not necessarily. Because many of us would rather eat away our anger than discuss it openly with our partner. Frustration at work, arguments with girlfriends, physical ailments – far too often we say to ourselves: I don’t want to burden my sweetheart with this. That in itself is a laudable thought, if there wasn’t a big relationship trap lurking there. Because: Identifying problems with yourself can be permanent lead to great misunderstandings, quarrels and alienation.
A study by the dating portal “ElitePartner” showed that 50 percent of couples would split up if they did not get understanding and support from their partner. But that is exactly what is difficult if we open up to our loved one only partially or not at all.
The partnership suffers from the silence
Here’s how it can go: When we’re irritated or frustrated by our worries, the partner mistakenly refers to that mood—looking for relationship problems where there aren’t any, arguments brewing, or communication stalling. Fatal! Because the same thing happens with closeness and intimacy, which are so important for an intimate relationship.
Even if not everyone wants or can be an open book for their partner: We should share problems that really bother us with our sweetheart. Always! Because in the long run we burden him a lot more by NOT telling him or her about it. Many men, for example, feel confirmedwhen you ask them for advice and support. The protective instinct kicks in and they have the good feeling of being closer to their partner than anyone else.