Amira Pocher
Open words about their highly toxic relationship
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Today Amira Pocher is happily married and has two children. But she has also had very different, much worse experiences with men. In her podcast, she now reports more openly than ever about one of her toxic relationships and reveals how bad it really was back then.
Amira Pocher, 30, has a lot to say about her latest podcast episode “Lügen”. But for more expertise, she has invited a psychologist. The two discuss a message from a listener about their toxic relationship – something Amira sounds familiar. “I’ve had difficult relationships, too,” she suggests. In addition to fraud and violence in the partnership, she also had to endure a relationship characterized by control, reports Oliver Pocher’s wife, 45.
Amira Pocher recalls toxic relationship with a “control freak”
In a conversation with the psychologist, Amira remembers really bad times. One of her ex-boyfriends “totally controlled her,” she says. So much so that she eventually became paranoid herself. What he did almost sounds like something out of a bad movie. “If only the neighbor’s cell phone rang, they said you had a second cell phone and then the beds were taken apart…” said the 30-year-old. Her ex-boyfriend also regularly checked the hood of the car to check if she had been driving without his permission. To this day, she still can’t understand why people could treat themselves like that back then. The relationship lasted two years, reveals the mother of two, but she was still influenced by it years later.
Toxic ex-partner did a lot of damage
Today she is “liberated” from all the bad things that happened to her. And yet it was a part of her for a long time. “It was really crazy what that does to you. You kind of take all this shit with you,” she explains in retrospect. It’s important not to blame yourself, says Amira: “You really have to realize that you weren’t the problem, or your behavior, because basically you didn’t do anything and that’s all in the other person’s head happens.”
Today she is doing much better, I only have honest people around me, no spiteful and revengeful ones.
Source used: “Hey Amira” Podcast