On Reddit, a young woman who suffered repeated miscarriages told netizens how one of her colleagues used cruel words towards her.
Human wickedness will never cease to amaze us. It is obvious that a woman who has suffered one or more miscarriages reacts as best she can and above all, that she has the right to talk about it without taboos, if she wishes. This is the case of a young American woman, whose story moved and revolted Internet users on Reddit.
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She explained that she had miscarried several times and could not bear children to term. “Every time I’ve been pregnant I’ve had a miscarriage or sudden loss. Once was at 24 weeks., she explains, before mentioning that she is now at peace with this reality. “I am not as motherly as I thought. I am happy to be childless, although it is not by choice. I understand that these are the cards that were given to me.”
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At her job, other women’s pregnancies are always a challenge to manage. “Before the Covid, when we were still working on the premises, three women in my office got pregnant”, she explains. I was more than happy to celebrate with them, until the end of their pregnancy, and to celebrate the birth of their children with gifts. “ During this period, conversations about pregnancy multiplied and the young woman actively participated. “We were talking about pregnancy cravings, etc. I was talking about mine, and we were laughing about it”, she says. “Most of the time the discussions were about cravings, swollen ankles, bowel movements and gas. I never really mentioned the loss of the baby unless someone asked me to.”
A betrayal
On Reddit, this user explained that at her work, no one was aware of her pregnancies and repeated miscarriages. No one except a colleague. While teleworking was now the order of the day, another colleague got pregnant. She began to exchange text messages related to the pregnancy with the young woman who gave the testimony. One day, she received a message from the only person who knew about her situation. “She told me to stop talking about my pregnancy.” Why ? “Because I’m not a mother and since I won’t be, I shouldn’t be contributing to these kinds of discussions.” A brutal and sickening reflection that the main interested party struggled to accept. “I’m not going to lie, the truth hurt me but I understood why she said that.” However, today it is she who feels “guilty” of having talked about it too much …
Internet users who read his testimony did not understand. “The coworker who sent you this message is a huge asshole”, rebelled a Reddit user. “You weren’t bringing your motherhood experience, you were talking about pregnancy. You were indeed pregnant.” wrote another. Some have even gone further by asserting that this kind of comments should be reported to HR.
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Not being able to carry a pregnancy to term once, twice or ten times does not take away the right to talk about baby and motherhood. If bringing it up makes you feel better, do it! No one should choose for you and define what you are able to say and what not.
Barbara ejenguele
A journalism student, Barbara is currently doing a work-study master’s degree and writes on parenthood for the Aufeminin Maman, Parole de Mamans and Avis de Mamans websites. She is also …