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5 books to read when you’re heartbroken
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Are you heartbroken? Maybe the following book tips can help you. Here you will find books that cheer you up when you mourn the loss of love.
Love is one of the most beautiful feelings and at the same time it is the most painful. Anyone who has ever suffered from lovesickness knows that it should not be underestimated. Losing someone painfully can drag us down a hole that we can’t easily get out of.
As quickly as the dopamine level shoots up when you’re in love, it drops just as quickly after a breakup. Sadness, powerlessness and the feeling of not being an active part of this world remain.
What can help against lovesickness?
Warm, comforting words from friends are nice and can be encouraging. However, not as much as they do Realizing that it will go on. Maybe even better than before. Because there is great potential in lovesickness: growth and change. Getting there is a long and, above all, rocky road.
There will always be moments when we mourn the loss of love. Perhaps this grief will be part of our lives in the future. Is great love measured by the fact that it lasts a lifetime? It is possible that you can carry a person in your heart forever, but not do each other any good in the long run.
So what helps against lovesickness? In addition to everyday moments of happiness that create new, beautiful memories, it is the Time we spend with ourselves. With ourselves and maybe with books.
Which book helps with lovesickness?
Whether there is a book that makes lovesickness disappear in a matter of seconds, I doubt it. But there are many great books that show that everything might make sense in the end, help us to go our own way, or just give us distractions by immersing us in strange worlds.
5 books for lovesickness
1. Everything I know about love
Author Dolly Alderton knows her way around lovesickness. So much so that she wrote an entire book about it. And yet lovesickness takes over “All I Know About Love” not the largest room. Yes, it’s about heartbreak, dates and wild nights. Above all, “Everything I know about love” is one thing: a homage to the friendship that hasn’t earned its neglected reputation as a stopgap between all the lovers. So if you’re lying in bed at home heartbroken and can’t feel anything but pain and loneliness, then grab the book and let it convince you: far away from classic relationship patterns, love is often so close that we can’t recognize it exactly.
2. The summer without men
“The Summer Without Men” is particularly suitable if you want to forget your lovesickness for at least the length of a book. Incidentally, the novel encourages you to go your own way. History illustrates that this is often much more fulfilling than being attached to relationships that keep us from realizing our full potential. After a marriage “break”, the protagonist Mia spends the summer near her mother – without men. How enriching this time is despite initial difficulties and to what extent Mia gets to know each other is told by Siri Hustvedt so captivatingly that you don’t want to put the book down.
3. I’d rather not
Are you fed up with constantly making a good face at the bad game? Sometimes life is just stupid. And sometimes you can’t be as positive as counselors always preach to us. By the way, the phenomenon that relies on gratitude diaries and #goodvibesonly is called toxic positivity. “I’d rather not” is different. It shows that scolding is allowed, that there is no art without pain and that the world was not changed by the happy, but by the dissatisfied. So: Embrace the pain, cry when you feel like it, and snap “I’d rather not” when the compulsive positivity of meritocracy—especially when dealing with a breakup—is getting on your nerves.
4. The big trip – to yourself
When we are lovesick, we not only question ourselves, but the entire world. What is the meaning of life? No love at all – at least that’s what the thoughts after a breakup are like that. Cheryl Strayed answers questions about love, sex, friendship, work and the meaning of life in “The big trip – to yourself”. If the title sounds familiar, Cheryl Strayed is the author of the best-selling book Wild. This time, however, we don’t have to go into the wilderness to find ourselves.
5. Overcome lovesickness in 99 days
“Overcome Lovesickness in 99 Days” sounds like gratitude diaries. But it is not. It helps to get back on your feet after a breakup. Finding yourself back. The book asks the right questions to process the experience and to be the old person again after “99 days” – no, a much better version of ourselves.
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