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3 books to read if you are longing for love
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Are you longing for love? Maybe the following book tips can help you. We recommend three books that you should read if you want to learn more about the most beautiful feeling in the world.
“First love yourself before you are willing to love others.” Many long-term singles know this sentence. And yes, maybe there is a grain of truth in it too. But if, despite self-love, no relationship will develop, frustration arises – and we begin to doubt ourselves again. Is there perhaps another reason why things are more bad than good with love?
What is love?
Perhaps one of the biggest problems is that we never learned to have, what love means. Love is a strong word. Poorly defined, it is an emotional state of affection. But isn’t there much more to it than that? It is not without reason that famous philosophers, including Plato, Augustine, Kant, Rousseau, Luhmann and Foucalt, have dealt with this topic for years. And even today, many authors devote themselves to the topic of love. In “All About Love – New Perspectives” bell hooks attempts a definition. And also bestselling author Dolly Alderton’s novel “All I Know About Love” is an attempt to understand what is probably the most complicated feeling in the world. But can you ever understand it? And doesn’t love already evaporate as soon as it gets complicated? No, on the contrary.
love changes
In his book “The Course of Love” The Swiss philosopher Alain de Botton describes how love changes over the course of a relationship. There are also biological reasons for this. The happiness hormone dopamine, which is released when you are in love, causes euphoria. However, when true love develops from this initial infatuation, the body gets used to this state and the euphoria decreases. The dopamine rush is replaced by the hormone oxytocin. This binds us to each other, but also allows us to recognize the supposed rough edges of the other. Real Above all, love is one thing: work. Romantic feelings and mutual affection can only be maintained if we are willing to invest in them.
3 books about love
Do you want to learn more about love, give it more space in your life or just read stories about it? Then here are three books you should read if you are longing for love.
1. Conversations about love: how to find it, grow with it and not lose it
Natasha Lunn is a journalist who has interviewed a number of celebrities about love for her Conversations on Love newsletter. She has finally dedicated a book to the whole thing, from which we can learn a lot about the most beautiful and at the same time most painful feeling. In “Conversations About Love” It examines the questions in three parts: how do we find love How do we preserve them? And how can we cope with the loss of love?
Favorite quote: “Love is a quest, a promise, a home. It is the strength we muster to reach out to one another, with a cup of tea and tenderness, with humor and apologies. It is the world we share with another human being created, a truth that exists in the here and now.”
2. Happiness in love: true stories of real love
The numerous short stories in “Happiness in Love: True Stories of Great Love”. The journalist Kathrin Werner traveled to various countries for this work. All in all 20 True Love Storieswhich could not be more different, she wrote in the book. They move and give hope. Hope that there is great love.
Favorite quote: “Actually, she had resolved not to have anything to do with love anymore. ‘You have a state of mind, but when you meet someone, things can change,’ says Lindsay.”
3. Hardland
In his novels, Benedict Wells deals primarily with one topic: loneliness. What has the novel “Hard Country” then look here? Well, it is one Coming of age story. It’s about falling in love for the first time, loss and that one summer that turns your entire life upside down. Above all, it is one thing: one tribute to friendshipwhich sometimes gets underappreciated amid all the love madness.
Favorite quote: “She could be so much like me, and she was the opposite of me, and if my mood was an empty factory floor, then she was a bunch of candles.”