Boys insist on looking under six-year-old daughter’s skirt, mom is angry

On Twitter, a mother denounced an unfortunately very banal experience. Two boys were insistent on looking under her six-year-old daughter’s skirt, although her six-year-old daughter said “no” on several occasions.

Yes, girls, from an early age, are concerned by issues of adult women. In the school yard, in the park, in the playground … In November 2020, investigation produced by the Petites Glorieuses, in partnership with L’Oréal Paris, reinforced the discomfort: 99% of young women aged 14 to 24 said they had already experienced street harassment. But the reality is, let’s be honest, inappropriate behavior starts much earlier, sometimes even on grade school benches.

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Tuesday July 13, on his Twitter account, the mother of a six-year-old girl shared a shocking story. Living in an apartment building, she watched her daughter through the window while she played with several children of the same age in the yard. Everything was going well, until the little one told her mother that boys were bothering her. Questioned by Aufeminin, the young woman recounts what she said to her when she went back to the apartment. “She explained to me that two little boys kept bending down to look under her skirt. They continued to do this, even after she told them no. “ Angry, the mom had already spoken about consent to her daughter, but had to deepen her speech after this episode.

“It’s kind of his fault anyway”

When an adult woman experiences street harassment, or worse, rape, the phrases she hears most regularly revolve around her outfit or attitude. “You looked for it a bit by dressing like that” or “You behaved like a tease”. Whether you’re six, twenty-six, or fifty-six, the reactions are sadly the same. This is what the mother of this little girl assaulted by boys of her age could see in the comments of her thread. “I was told that it was not mean at that age, but rather a childish way of discovering sexuality. Some even insinuated that it was my fault because I was not watching her. Others asked me how long her skirt was. “ Scary.

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Video by Clemence Chevallet

Without taking a position in judgment or in misplaced suspicions, some Internet users gave this mother little tips, such as putting shorts under her daughter’s skirt, for example. This element particularly annoyed him. “Clearly, it’s up to her to change her behavior! When it happened, it was also up to her to withdraw from the playing area, even though she had done nothing wrong ”, she regrets. Unfortunately, this reality is found later in the phenomena of street harassment. What woman has never adapted her program so as not to come home alone at night? Or changed her dress so as not to be the object of inappropriate remarks in the street? As a general rule, it is always up to the victims to withdraw from public space and modify their behavior so as not to provoke inappropriate reactions.

According to this mom who uses Twitter, “There is certainly an educational problem here, but also a societal one, because my daughter has expressed the ‘no’ very clearly. Teaching boys to consent is still a lot of work. When I am told that children of this age do not understand the ban on looking up girls’ skirts, I want to answer that even if a six year old child is not yet aware that this type of behavior does not occur. ‘is not suitable (which I doubt), they understand very well when you say no. It is therefore on this axis that we must insist, on respecting the “no” ”

Barbara ejenguele

A journalism student, Barbara is currently doing a work-study master’s degree and writes on parenthood for the Aufeminin Maman, Parole de Mamans and Avis de Mamans websites. She is also …