Each week, aufeminin deciphers for you the hit games, the rising trends, the favorite objects or the most cryptic expressions of your teenagers… just to be up to date (and finally, to understand them).
This week in “T’as la ref?”, we have chosen to dissect with you an expression that punctuates all the sentences of teenagers: to be ghosted.
When one is an adult, the new expressions of young people are not always easy to follow or to understand, especially when one does not meet teenagers on a daily basis.
And, even in this situation, certain expressions are not always clear, for example teenagers nowadays regularly say: “I got ghosted”. But what does that really mean?
Have you ever been ghosted?
Let’s start, first of all with a little contextualization: imagine for example, dating a person for several weeks or months, even years and then suddenly nothing, zero news, not a single message, not the slightest sign of life . If this situation has already happened to you, excuse me to tell you that you have been ghosted. But don’t worry, you are far from being the only ones. Indeed, for several years, this trend has increased to the point that there is now a name to describe this attitude: “ghosting”. When we say ghosting, we hear ghost which means ghost in English and no, this word is very far from having been chosen by chance. We “ghost” someone when we no longer answer emails, text messages, or calls. The ghosting person is not dead, far from it, they simply ignore the other.
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In the USA a study by YouGov and the Huffington Post in October 2014 showed that out of 1,000 adult Americans, 11% had ghosted their partner at least once in their lifetime.
“The fact of not giving any sign of life overnight without explanation has been around for a long time. But ghosting is a phenomenon that appeared in 2007, with Facebook, Twitter, Instagram… It’s a total disconnection of a cyber link. For me, we can’t talk about ghosting if we don’t talk about social networks. »explained the philosopher and essayist Vincent Cespedes.
A survey carried out by Elle magazine on 184 people also shows that women are more often victims of ghosting (24%) than men (16%). A situation that Vincent Cespedes explains in his book “Man Explained to Women”.
“Man is more distant from his own emotions and more manipulative. Because we raised him like that: he must be master of his emotions, control them, but also control those of others to be more powerful. And that’s unfortunate. »he wrote.
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