Christmas gift
This is how partners find successful surprises
The main thing is that the gift comes from the heart.
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What do I get my partner this year? Many people ask themselves this question before Christmas. That's what matters.
Every year, couples look for the perfect Christmas present for their partner. For many, however, that means an extra dose of stress in addition to decorating and planning for Christmas Eve. Relationship psychologist Wieland Stolzenburg appeals in an interview with the news agency spot on news: "Gifts should bring joy and not cause stress." The author, who wrote "Deepening Relationships: 103 Questions for Couples" among other things, advises couples to simply try something new so that the focus is not on the gift itself.
Couples should clarify this beforehand
"It can be worthwhile to take a new, different approach to gifts," said Stolzenburg. "For example, you agree that it can only be a small thing up to, for example, 30 euros," is his tip for couples. Even in the family circle, it is not necessary to get a present for everyone, the expert finds. He recommends that "everyone should give something to one other person and that they should do something in a circle, so to speak".
In addition, the following applies: "The higher the expectations, the higher the probability of disappointments." Therefore, before Christmas Eve, partners should be aware: "If I don't get the perfect gift, it doesn't mean that my partner doesn't love me." According to Stolzenburg there are "so many more expressions of love than a Christmas present". It could be, for example, that the partner simply expresses his feelings differently – and the expert adds: "A loving Christmas card is sometimes worth more than something material."