Harvard psychologist reveals
Anyone who says these sentences every day is emotionally stable
Psychology: Emotional stability can be expressed through these phrases.
Emotional stability means self-confidence, authenticity and strength. A psychologist explains how you can recognize this trait in yourself.
Emotionally stable people feel comfortable in their own skin – and the outside world notices that too. They don’t bend over backwards to please others, they have their principles and remain true to them and themselves.
Anyone who has this kind of self-confidence can deal with conflicts better and show themselves vulnerable in front of others more easily, explains Harvard psychologist Dr. Cortney Warren in an article on Make It. She gives sentences that show that you are emotionally more secure than most other people she has met in her work.
6 sentences that define emotionally stable people
Those who are emotionally secure do not let their own emotions control them, set clear boundaries and have an internal value system according to which they act. But: Such people also know that they are not perfect and are open to (constructive) criticism and new experiences. You can recognize emotionally stable people from the following sentences.
1. “Let me think about it before I answer”
We are confronted with something that demands our immediate response – or so it may seem to us at that moment. But much more often we have the choice and opportunity to remove ourselves from a situation, to look within ourselves and to choose our answers carefully. Emotionally stable people are not impulsive in their reactions.
2. “No”
A “yes” can be such a beautiful thing. A “Yes, I want!” For example, it often makes the person asking and the person being asked very happy. But a “yes” can also be true stress lead to overtime, overloaded resources, excessive demands… Many of us – whether in our private or professional lives – have never really learned to say “no”. It is such an important word, as the scientist emphasizes: “Emotionally secure people feel comfortable setting boundaries. They are clear about what they want to do and not do based on their own moral principles, needs and desires .”
3. “I don’t feel comfortable with this”
It’s not always easy to communicate your own feelings, especially in situations in which we feel uncomfortable and overwhelmed. Emotional safety also means being able to communicate one’s emotions, needs and desires in a respectful manner and, if necessary, taking action when these things are not respected or perceived by others.
4. “I’ll work on that”
Relationships of all kinds are complex, as ultimately are individuals. We all struggle at some points, but it’s important to strive for change in the relationships that are worth it to us. This means that we don’t take criticism of our behavior personally, but rather as an opportunity to develop ourselves and be the best version of ourselves.
5. “This is important to me”
A solid belief system guides our decisions, explains Dr. Warren. And when something is violated within this value system, emotionally stable people are able to acknowledge this fact and stand up for what they believe is moral and just. For these people it is of secondary importance whether other people assign the same value to these things – it is enough for them to be clear about the meaning themselves.
6. “I want to try!”
As already mentioned: nobody is perfect. We all make mistakes, each of us can fail at some things, even when we do our best. But the threat of failure doesn’t stop emotionally secure people from trying new or risky things – because they know that if they “fail,” the world won’t end.
Sources used: cnbc.com, ncbi.nlm.nih.gov