Couples: this proven method to prevent an argument from degenerating

The consequences of an argument that degenerates are often irreparable, even if you manage to put the pieces back together. The infallible technique that is offered to you is called “warning lights“. It was unveiled by the specialist Estelle Becquet, quoted by Cosmopolitan. The traffic light technique makes it possible to associate three levels of anger to three colors of the traffic light : green, orange and red. The fact of being able to give colors to one’s anger levels allows to better control oneself.

The green light is to be associated with a neutral state of anger. That is, you feel no anger towards the person you disagree with. If you want argue fluently, now is the perfect time to do so. You can more easily express your ideas. As your anger rises, you have to ask yourself if you are not to go through the orange light. When you feel anger within you, the specialist advises tostop talking and come back at a more convenient time when you have calmed down a bit and/or start a small attempt at a truce.

Take a break when it turns red

It is not always easy to stop at the orange light, then we enter the zone of intense anger, felt viscerally. This anger irrepressibly motivates the urge to defend oneselfto hurt the other or to be stubborn to make it clear that we are right. A discussion of spades and reproaches leads to nothing butmore degeneration. At red, you simply have to withdraw, take the time necessary to make things clear in his head before attempting any discussion.