A young mum found out after the birth of her second child that the dad wasn’t caring for their newborn like he had with their first. He then confessed to her that he “does not like babies”.
It is true that some people find it easier to take care of a baby than others. Having such a small being in your arms can be destabilizing but it’s like everything, you can learn. For young parents, it is necessary to prepare well for the arrival of an infant in order to guarantee everyone a place in the family. And no, it’s not just mums who have an instinct with babies, dads also have it as long as they invest just as much. After all, when we’re in a relationship, a child is made in two and he is also educated in two.
But it’s obviously not clear to everyone… A mother of two confided in the forum Reddit after noticing that her husband was not at all invested with their little girl. And when she confronted him, he admitted to her that he “does not like babies” and that’he “refuses to take care of the infant”… A remark that deeply shocked the young mother!
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Dad didn’t act that way with their first child
The mum explained the difference in treatment between her first child, now 3, and their baby girl: “He has an incredible relationship with our almost three-year-old and is a very present and involved parent. Whereas with our baby he does the bare minimum. He will only take it when I ask him to, put it down as soon as he can and even though he should probably hold it. He barely interacts with her.” Apart from the link he obviously does not create with their little girl, he does not try to go to her when she cries either. : “I’ve been waiting to see if he does anything when the baby starts crying in his care. But all he does is place baby in his stroller and push him around a bit. When it doesn’t work, he just waits for me to get bored and deal with it.”
The situation became very heavy for the young mother who did not understand her husband’s behavior. So she confronted him and that’s when he confessed that he “doesn’t like babies.” But the discussion didn’t end there: “His excuse is that he faked our first child for me, and now he’s too tired to pretend to like babies. He would rather just be a great father to our son and wait until the newborn stage is over.” And the mother was particularly hurt by these words, new anxieties were born in her: “My biggest fear is that our daughter won’t feel as loved or wanted as our son.” While they both dreamed of having a little boy and a little girl…
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Zoé is on a work-study program, she joined the aufeminin team in September 2022, she writes for the parenting section. Committed and curious, Zoé likes to write to advance…