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Dating trend hardballing: love killer or guarantee of success
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Corona has changed a lot – including the way we date. Lockdowns and social distancing have made us mindful about who we spend our precious time with. We are all the less in the mood to spend the little games with me. No wonder hardballing is the dating trend.
Of course it would be nice to just get to know someone in a bar, at a concert, in the park or through friends. Unfortunately, that doesn’t happen like that – especially not during the pandemic. Most singles meet online. The Corona years have made a not insignificant contribution to this, but also to the fact that instead of wasting time with banalities, please speak plainly. Perhaps we have also become more demanding overall when it comes to organizing our free time and with whom we really want to spend it. Because that is exactly what the dating trend hardballing reflects.
Hardballing: what does it mean?
Sorry, but we no longer make compromises on the things that are really important to us. Wasting time and energy on someone who ends up ghosting us, keeping us warm, or somehow unsure if they want a relationship with us now? We’re really too bad for that. If there is a relationship, then with someone who at least has a similar idea of it as we do. We decide how much agreement and difference we want, but then we need that and we won’t go below that anymore. That’s why hardballing is currently particularly popular. The dating trend stands for a particularly intensive and insightful way of getting to know each other, in which both partners communicate very openly with each other. Here you don’t beat about the bush, but put all the cards directly on the table. The quintessence: In the best case we will find someone faster who is worth investing time in, in the worst case it will at least have a quick end.
After benching, ghosting and co, finally a promising trend, right?
After all the toxic dating phenomena that have made you contemplate staying single so you don’t have to deal with all those pickles out there, hardballing seems to be a glimmer of hope after all. Basically, it’s the antagonist to all the meanness in the dating game: relationship? What loose? one night stand It’s all there, but please just be honest. Never again have to ask yourself what the other person thinks of you or what you are for each other, whether you can write now or should you wait three days, just as little as excuses or false promises. Every fuckboy’s nightmare, every dreamer’s dream of true love?
Of course you can also be disappointed with hardballing, but at least you shouldn’t fail at the first hurdles. After all, you take your time before you meet for the first time. You need them, too: online conversations are being conducted more extensively and in more detail. So it’s a form of “slow dating” – and as in many other areas, it can also be used in the dating no harm in slowing down a bit. If everything fits so far, then you meet. The chemistry just has to be right.
But hardballing can also backfire
At first glance, hardballing seems very promising, but it can quickly become uncomfortable. Instead of a casual date, you might feel like you’re in a job interview, which can also end up being frustrating. Relaxed getting to know each other is different. In principle, it is of course okay to address topics that are essential for oneself at an early stage, but it must not be forgotten that we are still looking for a partner and not for our likeness or a prince charming who meets our requirements in all respects. Compromises are part of every relationship. Anyone who is bothered by the little things will find it difficult to find a suitable person in the future. So let the reins loosen a bit and approach the number openly.