Everyday love: the 30-second trick for happy couples

Love in everyday life
The 30 second trick is what distinguishes happy couples from others

They exist, the stories that make us believe that true love really exists. No, we're not talking about Disney films, we're talking about real people, like the couple next door who still hold hands on the street even after 50 years of marriage. When we see them, we automatically ask ourselves: What are they doing differently? The people whose love lasts forever, survives ups and downs?

This is exactly where we catch ourselves with the first misconception: Because let's be honest – most relationships fail not because of the big, but the small challenges in life. We're talking about the big, invisible monster called everyday life. One day it will catch up with every pink love, no matter how pink.

At the latest when two become three – whether a pet or a child – but also when moving in together, small bumps suddenly appear in every relationship on the previously flat path. Because those who share everyday life are not only connected to falling asleep and sleeping in together, but also emptying the dishwasher, sorting the laundry and cleaning the windows. Does that sound less romantic? It is. And this is exactly where it often gets stuck. Because under all the household and organizational work go the positive aspects of the background, why two people now share a place of residence – oh yes, love it! – quickly under.

How does love survive everyday life?

What helps? There are certainly many answers and not one solution for everyone. However, we have now learned that it is often the small screws that can bring about big changes. That's why we present: the 30-second trick!

Because don't worry, in addition to all the care work, the relationship work should not become an additional time waster. Instead, 30 seconds a day is enough for couples to have a happier relationship.

What do you do in the 30 seconds? Fill it with household, organization and everyday life. How is that supposed to help? This time we look at the tasks in a positive light. Once a day (preferably in the evening), you can take a moment to talk about things that you, or even better: the other, have done today. The focus should be on the positive aspects. Need an example? "It feels so much better to get into a fresh bed – it was a great idea to have new covers!" – "I can hardly believe that you found the second socks and rolled them up, they have been gone forever!" – "High Five – the new window cleaning trick works, look how far we can see now!"

What do these apparent nothingnesses mean? A lot, because on the one hand they show appreciation for the small activities that are often lost in everyday life. On the other hand, they motivate us, because the daily tasks, which often become a recurring burden, appear to us with a new ease thanks to the positive emphasis.

So: take 30 seconds a day to speak positively about the care work. And then she ticks off the topic and happily goes to bed (freshly made).