Love killer
5 things you shouldn't do in a healthy relationship
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Having a happy partnership sometimes means a bit of work. At least one should definitely avoid these mistakes.
When the first fall in love is over, it shows whether you really belong together. Because letting love grow in everyday life is anything but natural. You should definitely not make these mistakes.
1. Concealment of problems
Whether they concern the partnership or are very personal – not letting the other partake of their worries always leads to distance in the long run. And once it's there, it's hard to get rid of. You should always remember: telling your partner about your problems creates understanding. Otherwise it is easy for him to misinterpret your bad mood – and it will only create more problems. In addition, many hurdles can be overcome better together. So get him on board!
2. Be too open
Telling your partner about your worries doesn't mean you can always and all over have to tell the truth. Do you find another man attractive? Keep it to yourselves. The three-course menu he cooked for you doesn't taste good? Be gracious to him! There are simply situations where white lies are okay – and important.
3. Be stubborn
Worst case: two stubborn heads meet. Sure, you shouldn't bend over completely in a relationship. But always insisting on your point of view is quite exhausting for the partner. That helps: change your perspective! Put yourself in your treasure more often: What are the reasons for his behavior? If you know them and maybe even empathize with them, then it is easier to find compromises.
4. Become dependent
There is no love without any dependency. But it is important that everyone works on their own and that they build a social network away from the relationship. Life cannot revolve around the partner alone. That would not only be bad in the event of a separation, it can also put a strain on the partnership, for example because the other may feel too restricted.
5. Set wrong priorities
Your partner is doing badly, but the regular poker table is more important? Bad trap! Even if the other person shouldn't be the linchpin of life, he is still one of the most important – if not THE most important person in life. This is exactly what you should show him again and again – and thus strengthen his trust.
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