Other people often seem to assume that at 30, I’ve planned the rest of my life down to the last detail. But why should I? About the joy of not having a plan.
I like to live in the here and now. It’s always been like that, and it’s still like that for me. I don’t believe myself that I will ever be different. I like to be spontaneous, I’m there when I have time and I’m not there when something comes up. And that’s how it often is for me, not only with friends or family or with relationships. It’s the same with the future, which is almost non-existent in my mind. The only thing I know is that I probably still have a lot of years ahead of me. Many possibilities. And every year something new can happen.
When being indifferent becomes a superpower
In the meantime I have found answers for some important life decisions. Most are: If it happens, fine – if it doesn’t, then don’t. I just see where the path will lead me. Then Even without a plan, I ended up where I am now – and I’m actually very happy with it. I have my own apartment, enough money to travel and hang out with my friends. Can exercise or eat out without worrying too much about the cost.
Life is good to me, I often think to myself. But what will happen to me in ten or 15 years? I don’t know that at all, and my motto here is that I’ll just stumble into one or the other. And then I stick to what I like best. Now that may sound risky to some. But it’s like this: I can’t know what the future will bring. Now why should I worry or worry about what may never happen?
I don’t need a 10 year plan
Since I never really set my sights on what I really want to achieve in the coming years, I feel very free in my decision-making. For example, I don’t intend to buy an expensive house in ten years. Partly because I know that the market isn’t looking so good, and partly because I don’t need that much space and I don’t currently have this dream of owning my own home.
I’m not thinking about starting a family and I don’t think I’m really the type for that either. Instead of this is it important to me, that I can travel and experience things and I can enjoy what I enjoy the most in life: Eating, traveling, writing, meeting people. To name a few. And if my priorities shift, then that’s a matter for my future self. If I then still want a house, I can take out a loan. If I do want children but it’s too late for me, I can always try to adopt. It’s not all black and white just because you decide against something now. Even if many people try to convince me that it only makes sense to think about all these things at this moment, because otherwise you will end up in a sad heap of misery later on.
Excuse me dear people. But if you think that of me, you don’t know me well enough. I believe that no matter what age I am, I am able to take control of my own life – and that with a cool head I can deal with future problems in the same way.
House, write a novel, emigrate – everything is possible
In my head, which is always overloaded with new ideas (especially at night), new possibilities are constantly maturing. Maybe someday I’ll write a book, or try my own DIY Pinterest career, start streaming on Twitch, or eventually become a DJ because I can’t sleep all the time anyway. Everything fine, I would say. I’m flexible, I’ve already worked successfully in four or five areas and I believe that I can prove myself where I want to. I find this Openness makes the future even more interesting and exciting. Why do we even need a plan in life?
Plans and disappointment often go hand in hand
For many people I know, future plans are like to-do lists. You take on far too much and end up being disappointed when you slip off the finish line and realize your dream in ten years rather than five. The main thing is that you reach the goal at some point if you set it. We’re living longer and longer.
Maybe my “I’m only planning the one year and nothing else” attitude will get on my feet at some point. But to be honest, I prefer to live a more stress-free and carefree life now. and I am not yet interested in anything that concerns my future self. I’m sure I’ll be stressed, but that’s not relevant to me just yet.
Except maybe for a few retirement plans and Co. – I mean, I’m not completely wrong. Investing my money and hopefully maximizing it, I can see the point. After all, I want to be able to live well later on. But for me it’s okay not to make any future plans in terms of love, family, children or house if I’m content in the here and now. Because if it stays that way, my future self will also be satisfied. My motto: Now I’m just me