Here are the 18 questions every woman should ask to know if she is compatible with a man, according to an expert

On a first date, we often hope to float in an atmosphere of seduction where everything is perfect. But in reality, a first date is an opportunity to get to know a person. This moment should therefore be devoted to asking sincere questions in order to verify that there is indeed a compatibility in lifestyles. Julie Silver, a 54-year-old nutritionist and wellness advisor, has drawn up a list of questions, which she systematically asks her suitors.

This questionnaire allows her to quickly eliminate men who do not suit her and therefore not waste time. Because as a reminder, what does not bother us too much at the start of a relationship can become unbearable over the years. The questions are oriented according to Julie Silver’s preferences but you can modify them to meet your expectations. Here are 18 questions to ask on a first date.

1. What are your friends like?

Friends say a lot about personality. If they are nice and honest, that’s obviously a good sign. On the other hand, they may have a way of having fun that is not at all in agreement with yours. For example, if his friends are party people and you are not, this could pose a problem in your future relationship. The way he talks about his friends is also important. If he starts throwing sugar at them, that’s what we call a red flag, run away!

2. How do you get along with your parents?

A person who gets along well with their parents is generally more mentally balanced. However, we are not responsible for our childhood wounds so the idea is not to disqualify someone who has a conflicting relationship with their parents but simply to realize what that entails. As Julie Silver explains, “he may have resentments that he brings into his relationship.”

3. Do you have a good relationship with your ex?

This is a bit of a trick question! It’s well known that a man who calls all his exes crazy is suspicious! According to the expert, we all enter other people’s lives for a reason. And being on bad terms with your ex means holding on to resentment, which is not a very good sign.

4. How do you like to sleep?

We all have our little habits when we sleep. So it’s better to ask these questions like: do you like watching a movie in bed? Or do you like to snack in bed at night? Do you sleep with your pet? In complete darkness? Many sleep habits can be incompatible so you might as well check this quickly.

5. Do you have a balanced diet?

For some people, diet is very important. And these people generally don’t want to share their lives with someone who doesn’t adopt a healthy lifestyle. The same goes for vegetarians or vegans who don’t want to have meat at their table. So find out about your diet!

6. Do you want to have children?

The issue of parenting is obviously crucial in a relationship. It all depends on your age and your current situation, but if you don’t have the same plans as the man sitting across from you on your first date, there’s no point in planning a second one.

7. What are your hobbies?

Sharing the same hobbies as your companion is the assurance of spending quality time alongside them. Conversely, interests that are too different may push you apart in the long term, so you might as well check this compatibility from the start so as not to waste time.

8. Are you more of an evening person or a morning person?

Here again, this question is very important since in the long term, a couple is led to live together and share their daily lives. If one goes to bed early, the other late and the same goes for waking up, this gap risks posing a serious problem.

9. Do you like telephone contact?

In love, some people are very into the phone and will send a lot of messages and want to call each other regularly. Others, however, hate talking over the phone and it can create a divide. It’s best to make sure you’re on the same page about this to avoid misunderstandings.

10. Are you affectionate?

If you’re tactile and value public displays of affection, like holding hands, make sure you choose a partner who is the same way as you. Physical touch is a language of love and if you don’t get enough of it, you might not feel loved. Which won’t do you any good.

11. What are your worst faults?

Not sure if your date will answer this question honestly, but you can always try. And if he responds with faults that are prohibitive for you, at least you will be fixed!

12. Do you like watching television?

There are those who like watching series and films and others. Make sure you fall into the same category before getting into a romance. Someone who doesn’t like spending time in front of the television at all may find it unbearable that their partner does it. And the latter might not understand this aversion.

13. What importance do you give to sport?

Just like television, people’s approach to sports can vary greatly. A very sporty person will generally have difficulty thriving with someone who hates sports and vice versa.

14. Are you addicted to your phone?

Are you the type to check your phone at the table? Or scrolling on your phone in the middle of a conversation? A phone addiction is not very attractive but it is rare to recognize this addiction as it seems to affect everyone.

15. What is your relationship with money?

Are you more of a spender or saver? Sharing a common vision of budget management is rather a sign of understanding on daily life.

16. Do you have a pet?

As pet owners know, a pet requires a lot of time and attention. Which can be extremely annoying to a partner who does not share this attachment. Conversely, a person who also has an animal will understand it very well.

17. Do you want to get married?

Just like the question of children, that of marriage must obviously arise. While it may seem very premature to ask this question on a first date, it is still important to ask. Because if you really want to get married, you might as well be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t exclude this possibility.

18. How do you handle arguments?

How you handle conflict says a lot about you. If you get angry easily, this can be a turn-off for many people.

Passionate about women’s news, Agathe has been deciphering the latest trends for aufeminin since 2022. Her favorite areas? Psychology, nutrition and well-being advice, without forgetting the tips…