How self-respect can change your life

Self-respect – what is it actually? Basically, it is the basis for everything that makes us happy. For self-confidence, self-love and also love for others. Yes, all of that. And luckily, self-respect can be learned.

Self-awareness seminars, body language training, career coaching and the like … they all have one thing in common: they can only fruit in people with self-respect. Because if you don't respect yourself, you will never trust yourself. And whoever does not trust himself, always subconsciously expresses this with his body. Decisions also rarely make people with a lack of self-esteem in their own favor. This is not conducive to career coaching or not.

Self-esteem – what is that supposed to be?

While self-confidence is celebrated in the media as non plus ultra, less attention is paid to self-esteem. It is the basis of all satisfaction. Self-esteem means being aware of yourself, respecting and accepting yourself as you are. In the second step, self-respect also means acting carefully. Every no to others can be a yes to yourself. Any unpopular decision can still be for your own good. And each of your feelings is justified, if not always right. Always including yourself in the decisions of life, that sounds more natural than it is. If there is a lack of self-respect, you do this far too rarely.

Shut up, you inner critic

You can learn self-respect, by the way. The greatest enemy: your inner critic. He begins his sentences with "You should" and "You have to", tells you everything that the outside world has ever accused you of and puts all these accusations on new situations. But the inner critic is a complete idiot – to put it nicely. He has an IQ of 10 maximum and opens his mouth, even if he was not asked. He is a really miserable advisor. Really, extremely miserable, but a marketing genius. Because although nobody likes him and he has absolutely nothing on the box, he is still the most booked consultant in the world. It would not be that difficult to replace him with our inner best friend. Sometimes she complains to us if need be. But polite and respectful. And that is what it is about.

10 sentences that you use to silence your inner critic and prove more self-respect:

1. Funny, that's what my mother always said. Has long been outdated.

2. Interesting opinion, but not mine.

3. How rude of you! Can you say that nicer?

4. Ha, where did you get the crap from? From my father? I'm next generation, baby!

5. Where's the bus with the people who are interested in your opinion?

6. You may be right, but nobody is perfect. Not even me. Crazy but true.

7. You can only complain again after two compliments! Oh, would you rather be silent? Good as well!

8. I love you too, you Spacko!

9. If you were just wiser, I would have asked for your opinion.

10. Another thing and I quit the brain-flat share. Whereby … Is actually long overdue … so OUT !!!!