Positive mindset
How we trick our brains when we stop saying these sentences
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Words have a lot of power – in one direction as well as in the other. How we formulate sentences and which words we use have a decisive influence on our perception. Here we reveal what we should exchange in our choice of words so that we polish our brain more optimistically.
1. “I have to …”
A sentence that starts like this can only end badly, because we associate “must” with something that is forced and that is usually something that we do not like to do or tasks that others have assigned us.
Better: “I want …”
Because this links our brain with intrinsic motivation, i.e. a motivation that comes from within us and is fed by our values and goals. So if we use “I want …” instead of “I have to …”, firstly we feel less controlled by others and secondly, we approach the matter in a much more positive way. Conversely, this makes us more persistent and motivated. Win win!
2. “You can …”
When we use the word “man” synonymously for “I”, we distance ourselves from our own person.
Better: “I can …”
So when we talk about ourselves, try to make “I” out of “you”. So we are much more conscious of ourselves and also not easily evade responsibility.
3. Negative formulations
Words like impossible, difficult, wrong or bad make our optimism barometer instantly plummet. That’s why we’re just fooling around a bit here and fooling our brains.
Better: not possible, not easy, not easy, not good
Our control center up there is not up to the problem with negations. That is why the word “not” is often lost. So if we use “not possible” instead of “impossible”, we have the chance that our brain will then save the situation as controllable and changeable.
4. “I don’t want to be late.”
Here again we tricked our brain the other way around. Our goal is to be on time. Since our brain does not like to over-read this, the probability in this case is very high that we will be late. It is therefore important in such cases to formulate our goals in such a way that they do not contain a negative.
Better: “I want to be on time.”
5. “I can’t do this.”
A sentence that we have all said several times. And very often afterwards we realized: Well, man, it was possible!
Better: “I can’t do that yet.”
What we like and what we can do changes in the course of our lives. By saying “I can’t do this yet” we are making it clear to our brain that nothing is set in stone and that we can still change things and learn.
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