“I have a job”, this housewife rebels against those who say that she is being maintained by her husband

Some stay-at-home mothers are tried and accused of taking advantage of the money earned by their partner, even though they “do not work”. This mom doesn’t agree: she works. Indeed, taking care of your household is work, but unpaid.

Being a stay-at-home mom. A sometimes very thankless role that attracts envy, jealousy but also sometimes disdain. When it is a choice, whether taken by the father or the mother, there should be nothing wrong with it. And yet, it is not uncommon to hear this reproach even today: “So you take advantage of your husband’s money while twiddling your thumbs”. It is with this reflection that this mother had to face, who publishes her testimony and her answer on babygaga. A stay-at-home mother since her first child, a member of her family once asked her: “Do you work, or does your husband always look after you?A question that left her speechless.

Yet today, this mother does not give up and wants to say that even if she does not receive a salary every month, she works.

The life of a stay-at-home mom

The mother specifies that staying at home with her children was her choice. A mother of four toddlers, she explains that in no case does she “profit” from the money her husband earns. She is very grateful to him for working and supporting the family. “Yes, my husband is the one who supports us financially. He brings home a salary that allows us to eat at our table, clothe my children, and give ourselves the life we ​​enjoy. I am very grateful to my husband and his hard work, but I do not feed on him. I stay at home with my four children. I feed them, I change them, I teach them and I even take them on excursions”, She explains.

I clean the house, I take care of the dishes, I do the laundry and I organize things. I give baths, read books, sing songs and organize impromptu dance parties when the children ask for it. I put an end to fights, I wipe away the tears, I kiss the bruises, I hug millions and I get yelled at often. I take pictures, I take care of their baby books, I organize their parties, I do the gardening and I keep in touch with their teachers to make sure they are okay.”, Adds the mother. In short, she is the one who takes care of the entire household, and her husband brings the money home. Yes, this diagram is a bit cliché. However, the mom is happy like this, and would not see her life any other way. And basically, that’s the most important thing.

The relationship to money

The mother insists that she does not take advantage of her husband’s money, since she uses it to support the family. According to her, her husband has an extraordinary role, but the salary he brings back goes to her as well.

I am not paid for my work. I have never once seen a paycheck for cleaning the toilet, wiping the urine on the floor, or cleaning the poo off the carpet after a small accident. Stay-at-home moms are at home, but our job is not easy. I’m not just sitting at home eating chocolate and watching Netflix all day. I work all day. I move all day and it’s an emotional journey. There are days when I don’t even speak to an adult until my husband comes home. It is not an easy job, but it is a job. I have a job. A very difficult and often thankless job, with very angry bosses who complain when they have been given the wrong color of cup”, Says the mom.

She and her husband each have their own roles in the household, and this arrangement seems to suit both of them. Even if things have changed since long ago and it is now possible to organize themselves so that both parents work, everyone is free to do as they think fit! No one has the right to judge, if the two parties are in agreement with their situation.

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Cecile Fischer

First a fashion student, Cécile slowly turned to journalism, which she found more sincere. She is an editor for aufeminin and Parole de mamans, proud to write for committed media. A …