An assisted reproduction for all except for lesbians, single women, trans people, an assisted reproduction without freezing our oocytes to allow us to have kids later, without reimbursement… In short: a lesbophobic, transphobic and basically, profoundly assisted reproduction. misogynist.
As the Senate decided last week, it is more acceptable for me to have a child with a dead man than with the living woman who shares my life. It sounds like a bad joke. On the night of Tuesday February 2 to Wednesday February 3, 2021, the Senate, which is examining the revision of bioethics laws at second reading, excluded single women from the extension of assisted reproduction to all women, before voting in favor of post-mortem ART, which allows a woman whose spouse has died to have a child with the deceased's gametes (in the case, of course, where the couple have had in vitro fertilization and had their gametes or its supernumerary embryos).
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I am far from the idea of contesting the possibility for a woman to have a pregnancy after the death of her partner, but let us note a certain irony: it would be possible for men, even after their death, to procreate, while women in lesbian couples and those who have a solo child project still do not have the right. Constraints of having to take back roads again and again, to call on a known donor or to travel abroad. In the end, the Senate simply rejected article 1 of the text, that is, the opening of assisted reproduction to female couples and single women, then article 2 allowing the self-preservation of gametes.
That middle finger hits where it hurts.
This vote looks like a last lap for the great circus of the most conservative parliamentarians, always ready to wave their lesbophobia and their paternalism under our noses, a last attempt to put a stick in the wheels of progress, equality and social justice. As senators know, there is little chance that their rejection of Articles 1 and 2 will stand before the National Assembly, which will decide on the final reading. But that middle finger hits where it hurts, a few days after another demonstration of the Manif pour tous in several major cities in France. And I am far from the only one for whom these demonstrations rekindle the trauma of the violence of the debates of 2013.
A new gift to the reactors
This vote of the senators which allowed the rejection of articles 1 and 2, it is still a signal in the direction of the homophobes, always ready to remind us that our families do not deserve respect and protection, that our desires of child are just whims and not as legitimate as those of straight couples. There is only to see as the Demonstration for All is rubbing its hands in the face of this vote, which she identifies as a victory.
This is not the first time that we have been made fun of, dykes, feminists.
In the aftermath of this "chaotic evening" in the Senate, as some media soberly wrote, like many I found it hard to believe. And then amazement gave way to anger, and that same anger gave way to weariness. This is not the first time that we are made fun of us dykes, feminists, that we are made fun of our rights, of our families, that we are told "be patient", that we are made to wait for an opinion, a recommendation, a green light, the approval of public opinion … It has been a long time since we understood that we were an adjustment variable, and that if the PMA is open to all women in the coming months, it is above all a matter of giving a little depth to the five-year review on so-called societal issues. We were presented with the idea of PMA, yes, but certainly not in the fast-track procedure. And then the law will also leave trans people on the bench, who are denied the right to have children and keep their own gametes. In the meantime, those who can continue to move abroad and adopt their own children.
I am tired of broken promises and commitments, also angry to see how easily we have been strolled and we are still being strolled, to see that existing families and families in the making have believed in this progress and understand that 2021, France is still reluctant to recognize them.