Inner voice
When do you listen to your heart, Guido?
© Christoph Köstlin
When making important decisions, Guido listens to himself. Even if that has caused him a disappointment every now and then. Does not matter.
If we want to make it big emotionally, we speak from the heart: We want to put it in the hands of the other person, we shouldn’t break it, we want to protect it. In our sentences, love is always closely connected with the heart and also with the heartache. But is there a broken heart? Is this marvel of pumping power really the center for our love and the boundless good? Yes, even scientifically proven. There is Broken Heart Syndrome – some people have loved so much that loss can ruin their lives. Isn’t it then essential to be aware of this great energy and wisdom again and again and to listen to this miracle? Yes!
The decisions we make are always matters of the heart. At least they should be. We all just need the ability to listen to ourselves for a moment of silence. Not an easy task when it is already clear that the respective change will shake up our lives. Knowledge is when one becomes aware: “How do I tell the others now?” How do you give your life a new impulse without disappointing expectations?
Well: if you jump, you need a little push. Perhaps “listen to your heart” is the only energy that makes change possible. The decisive kick in the buttocks. In my life I have listened to my heart very often and made decisions because I felt it and, above all, because I knew the feeling. The best long-term decisions of my life were always those when I had definitely not decided against my inner voice.
Some say for sure: “If I hadn’t listened to my heart, then I would have been spared this boring man, this jealous woman, this dreary job, the stupid house, this wretched cart or the behavioral barker.” But to realign my life and To decide according to one’s heart also presupposes that the wrong decision is made from time to time. So it can happen that we think: “It was an affair of the heart, but it didn’t make it any better.” But who really knows? No one! It’s that simple. Getting fully involved in something requires doing it with total dedication and also accepting the downsides.
And of course there are disappointments on the path of the heart from time to time. I, too, have been wrong about people, have trusted and have been painfully taught better. I know this fact well. I get hurt quickly but also called on to just keep going. The only option for the sensitive among us. We just don’t get out of our skin. We are who we are. But all in all, I was always able to gain something from every pain.
Breaking from it and learning nothing from it is the most nonsensical form of bad experience. Although it is essential to weigh up not to rush into something too quickly, it is always negligent to act against your inner conviction. Above all, bad experiences are no reason to let the mind alone rule in the future. People who only act on it are raw and unempathetic. If they still get hold of power, the worst is to be expected.
They say: every ten minutes a single falls in love in Germany, if you can believe the posters. However, whether a decision is made with the heart every ten minutes is on a completely different portal. Our hearts love to get lost when something attractive comes around the corner. What is beautiful finds its way in faster. Sometimes I think that the great mask era that we are currently living in offers the chance to pay attention to the voice, the eyes and the people again. We could now completely listen to our hearts if the rest can only be seen to a very limited extent.
As the little prince put it so aptly: “You can only see clearly with the heart, the essentials remain hidden from the eyes.” So when you close it and watch your breath, you will hear the person you trust most and whom you should love – yourself!
Your Guido
This article originally appeared in Guido issue No. 04/2021.