In a video published on her Youtube channel on July 11, Juliette Katz, alias Coucou les girls, reconsidered her “violent” childbirth and the postpartum period. A video necessary for informing and relieving guilt.
Giving birth for the first time means facing the unknown. Even if we have had childbirth preparation classes, and have read 46 books on the subject, there is always a share of (good or bad) surprises, on D-Day. is often considered magical, it can also be very distressing for the mother-to-be. Often, moreover, she arrives with some fears and apprehensions in the maternity ward or in the hospital.
Juliette Katz, better known under the nickname “Hello girls”, was no exception. Recently becoming a mom to her first child, she documented her pregnancy in a series of videos for her YouTube channel, titled “9 Months.” In the last episode, published on July 11, the actress returned to her childbirth and the postpartum period. She took the opportunity to confess that she had a fear that many women share when giving birth: to poop or have gas, during the expulsion of the baby.
The fear of the big commission
Hello the girls explains that her baby was transverse (neither the head nor the buttocks of the child appear at the entrance of the pelvis), with the umbilical cord around the neck. Her heart was slowing down and the delivery had to be speeded up. “At that time, there is the gynecologist, my boyfriend on my right and the midwife who is on a small stool and who makes the baby move at the same time during the push. », She says. Before adding: “Pushing is still something, I was afraid of not knowing how to push, I was afraid of shitting, I was afraid of farting, like a lot of girls. “
But with all that happens during childbirth, she says she then completely forgot about this fear. She asked the question to the gynecologist after the fact, who replied: “No no and then even if you had done it who cares”. “Maybe he made me a myth, maybe I shit, I don’t know”, she continues.
Rest assured, this little accident is very common: it happens to nearly 90% of women, especially if they are on epidurals and they cannot hold their stool. You should know that to expel a baby, our body uses the same muscles that are used when we poop. The colon, rectum, and bladder also experience extra pressure as the baby moves down into the vagina. So don’t make it taboo or be afraid of it, it’s quite natural and you might not even realize it.
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A difficult bond to create
Juliette Katz says the push was complicated and the use of forceps was necessary. “Fortunately I had the epidural. I give this image every time but I had the impression that there was a hand in my teeth, a hand in my c * l and that my organs were being removed ”, she says. In particular, she suffered a vaginal and perineal tear.
The delivery lasted about twenty minutes in total. “At the end the gynecologist told me, there is the head, do you want to touch it (…) I touched the head and it was weird, it was like a wet sponge with its little hair”, she relates. The baby was then placed on her. A very moving moment for the actress. “It’s such a huge upheaval, in any case that’s how I lived it”, she says. However, she explains that she did not feel a wave of love for her baby right away: “I think this is something we need to talk about, I did not find my child beautiful right away, since he was completely shriveled plus the forceps, etc. And above all, there is a bit of this injunction to love your child right away, when in real life we don’t know each other, even if we have lived together for nine months. It is put to me suddenly and I do not feel this wave of love. I don’t feel a push-it-me wave. But rather a wave of wow what just happened. He is my child I am moved I love him and at the same time no, take him away from me. I had all these feelings a bit. There really is this notion of taking responsibility for someone else and suddenly you have to love someone else and I didn’t live it in a gentle way. ” She confides that even now, she sometimes doesn’t have this feeling of love. “It’s difficult as long as you don’t see it”, she concedes.
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Loving your child from birth is not automatic and should not be taboo. That doesn’t make us a bad person, quite the contrary. There are no perfect mothers or fathers. The bond can be created later, after all, he’s an unknown. Open the word on the subject to show mothers in this situation that they are not alone.
Juliette Katz ends her video by explaining having lived a difficult postpartum. A guilt-free video, which also provides information on the reality of childbirth and the aftermath.
Elise Poiret
Journalist specializing in parenthood, Elise writes for aufeminin and Parole de mamans. She is also very involved in the fight for women’s rights. If you only have to remember …