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The perfect vacation for every couple
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Experience adventure, hang around in bed for half the day or wander through the clubs hand in hand? BRIGITTE couple therapist Oskar Holzberg knows which vacation is right for you at the moment!
Skydiving, renting a lonely house, hiking, strolling, shopping, cycling or lazing around the pool: every pair of lovers has different wishes and needs. And a different form of vacation suits every couple – at least in their current life situation.
Our favorite couples therapist Oskar Holzberg (in every BRIGITTE he answers “questions of love”) describes which type of travel suits which couple – and which doesn’t.
For the exhausted: nature
Great experiences in nature with lots of exercise and fresh air are particularly suitable for couples who are stressed. But such a trip can also work wonders for couples struggling with emotional hurt. Because talking to one another in nature is easier for many than in everyday situations, and conflicts do not escalate so easily.
No-Go: When routine and boredom are the predominant experiences in the couple.
For the estranged: wellness
Oskar Holzberg recommends a wellness holiday to couples who lack closeness and tenderness. Wellness offers a beautiful setting for relaxation, in which you can find yourself again – and that is the prerequisite for finding yourself again. In this way, the need for mutual closeness can be re-awakened.
No-Go: In the case of strong conflicts that preoccupy the partners so much that “switching off” and finding oneself is not even possible.
For love: romance
“Romanticism here means experiencing the exclusivity of the relationship. Acknowledging and strengthening the fact that there is the one, most important person in our life to whom we are irresistibly drawn ”, says Oskar Holzberg. Romantic trips are suitable for couples whose love is just beginning, but also for couples in whom alienation and loneliness are increasing in the relationship.
No-Go: If there are strong conflicts in the room. Since romance cannot be prescribed, the shot can backfire.
For the bored: metropolises
Foreign cities flood visitors with impressions. This has a connecting character and at the same time has a differentiating effect. The couple has the chance to form a unit against the unknown environment and is challenged to exchange ideas and communicate with one another in view of the many leisure opportunities. A city trip is especially good for couples who are looking for tension or who are bored in the relationship.
No-go: For couples who feel exhausted. For them, a city trip is more of an additional burden.
For long-term couples: adventure
Making new experiences and leaving the beaten path has a stimulating effect. When it comes to adventure travel, the unusual and challenging are in the foreground. Couples experience each other in a new way. The released dopamine stimulates the attraction and can act like a booster on buried feelings. Couples who have been together for a long time therefore often benefit from the unfamiliar.
No-Go: Adventure trips are less recommended for couples who see their differences as a problem. For them, shared adventures can fuel them.