On the occasion of the day against school bullying, Laura testified for Au feminine about her transition from bullied to harasser. Poignant confidences.
It’s a word you don’t hear often. That of a stalker. On this eve of the national day against school bullying, Feminine met Laura, who offered a poignant testimony to discover in its entirety on Instagram. While Brigitte Macron is mobilizing on this painful subject, the four minors who harassed young Lucas, who committed suicide nine months ago, have been released.
Also very touched by the child victims, Faustine Bollaert proposed a documentary on France 2 on Tuesday November 7. But the young woman interviewed here gives an unusual point of view. She mentions these children who fight to no longer or not to be harassed, and fall to the other side… She tells her story: “I started being bullied when I was little. It was a family in my village that didn’t like my family”. She describes traumatic moments, notably at the bus stop where she feared being insulted or worse, being hit.
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The testimony of Laura, harassed then harasser
Then Laura confides in the change that took place in her at college, “this atmosphere of you have to please people, you have to correspond, you have to meet the standards”. For her, there was a divide: “I said to myself: I need to be accepted by others, it’s essential. I must not be on the side of the weak, I must be on the side of the strong”. She doesn’t immediately label her actions as harassment; it’s only when a supervisor calls out to her and tells her that what she’s doing is serious that she realizes. For her, the problem is there: “Often, we don’t put words to it, whether it’s the victims or the harassers. And so there is no restraint”. The important thing would be there: “We are doing definition work for prevention in classes, to help them become aware of what it is.”.
She mentions the followers but also the harassers who reproduce a pattern sometimes suffered within their intra-family circle: “When we talk about it with the teachers, the directors of the establishments, they tell us that in the lives of these children, there are problems”. For her, the barrier between a harassed person and a harasser is “fine in a certain way”. But she knows that this is taboo: “It’s difficult to hear for the other part of the victims who have never crossed this barrier, but it’s a reality all the same.”.
And to move forward, Laura believes that we must not stay only in emotion. To fight against school bullying, she recommends a sociological analysis, a certain perspective and not just an observation of the suffering of the victims. For her, you really have to try to “understand what this phenomenon is, who are the actors, what are the causes, to really fight effectively”.
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