Learning to love yourself – is that even possible? Sure you can! And most of the time you have to. We'll tell you why and give you some helpful tips on how to do it.
Why do we need to learn to love ourselves?
In an ideal world we would all know that every human being – including ourselves – equally valuable and lovable is independent of
- his performance,
- its appearance and
- its tax class.
Or rather, we not only know it, we would too feel and live.
In reality, however, in preschool we experience for the first time that people are only popular if they are wearing the right clothes. And at the latest When we start grading in school, we learn to measure and evaluate ourselves and others in a way that has about as much to do with unconditional self-love as canned ravioli with original Italian pasta.
That means: Even if our parents give us all the necessary foundations for a stable self-esteem, it is in one performance-oriented society simply difficult to develop self-acceptance (and grades in school are just one of many tools – keyword Photoshop, Instagram, cover girls).
Problem: It applies at the same time the unwritten law that everyone (healthy, adult) is responsible for making sure that they are well. And you can only do this job successfully if you love yourself.
That being said, it's natural in our own interestto love ourselves because only then can we Become happy, feel compassionate, develop relationships and develop.
Therefore, it is practically our double duty to develop self-respect, both from a social and an individual point of view.
Why can we learn to love ourselves?
In contrast to feelings such as anger, disgust or fear, which usually occur quite spontaneously, self-love is more likely a lifelong basic feeling. An attitude and attitude that we can influence and acquire through practice.
That is why self-love is learning a process that we set in motion on purpose and nothing that just happens to us – not even when we finally have the great buttocks that we always struggle to get to the gym for or when our desired weight is on the scales.
How can we learn to love ourselves?
Of course, we cannot take a course at evening school to learn to love ourselves, we have to somehow incorporate into our daily doing. We basically have three large fields to plow, namely:
- Our perception
- Dealing with our feelings
- Our habits / our actions
A sequence or a plan in three steps cannot really be determined, after all, the three things are interrelated and go hand in hand. Nevertheless, it can't hurt and sometimes even be helpful to have this breakdown in the back of your mind, especially when implementing specific tips and exercises for more self-confidence. And we treat them now!
Learning to love yourself: the best tips
1. Treat yourself like your best friend.
In a certain way, this is the top, most important and at the same time also the simplest rule in learning to love yourself. But since it implies so much, we want to give you three more examples:
- When your friend is having a bad day, you comfort her and don't ask her to pull herself together.
- If she made a mistake, you show understanding and don't kill her because of it.
- If she is dissatisfied with herself, you try to show her her strengths and don't mess around with the causes of her dissatisfaction.
2. Find something every day that you are happy with.
Regardless of whether you have achieved or achieved something, whether your hair lay well all day or whether your lunch was delicious – you will find something small. And then write it down or at least briefly make yourself aware of it. This is how you learn to perceive the positive – in yourself and in your life.
3. Do something good for yourself.
Treat yourself to a break, take time for sport or something else healthy that is good for your body and mind, or try masturdating. After all, it's your job to be good to yourself and treat yourself well. Sometimes that includes just doing what you want.
4. Represent your wishes and interests to others.
Nobody can read your mind. Your environment depends on you telling them what is going on in you. Saying no or asking for help is not egoism, at least not a negative one. On the contrary! With clear, honest announcements you make it easier for others to deal with you (and you will become a dream woman too).
5. Enjoy happiness and success.
Be proud of yourself and what you do, and if you're lucky – be happy about it! You deserve it just like everyone else. Patting yourself on the back or partying has nothing to do with conceit or being in love with yourself. Everyone needs confirmation and affirmations, including from themselves!
6. Don't compare yourself to others.
It's best to start by unfollowing anyone on Instagram whose posts make you feel uncomfortable or feel guilty. Because they make such great trips, go to such fancy restaurants or have such a well-trained body. Firstly, they only show you their life through a tiny window, secondly, you are the focus of your life – and that's why you should first learn to be interested in yourself before you look at the others.
Video tip: 7 signs that you don't love yourself enough