"Leave the child alone? Never!"
Mothers should listen to these sentences when they are out and about without a child
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When mothers are out and about without a child – and enjoy it too – they can sometimes hardly believe their ears. Have you already had to listen to one of these sentences?
Without question: whoever becomes a mother gives a part of his heart and his life. After all, there is suddenly this wonderful little being who not only depends on our love, but also on our time. But: A mother is still an independent person.
Yes, there is life without a child. It's getting smaller, quite clearly, but still no less valuable. Think of the first walks to the coffee shop around the corner, the small minutes of rest while you sip your cappuccino without a baby's hand spilling it. Or the first weekend with friends when you entrust the little one to your partner or grandparent. In moments like this, there is a touch of freedom before the quick miss. And we all need them from time to time!
Just stupid when strangers think that we have to screw up these refueling moments. It is not uncommon for mothers to be unable to concentrate on their cappuccino and friends – but suddenly find themselves being cross-examined. The neighbor, the colleague, and even the waitress in the café suddenly seem to have to add their mustard when you're out on your own.
Would you like a little sample? Most mothers have probably already heard these sentences when they were out and about on their own …
Leaving the child alone: Mothers have to listen to this now
- "Where's the appendix?"
- "What, the little one has to get along without his mom already? The poor man!"
- "Really? You left it ALL ALONE with your husband?"
- "Phew, I couldn't do that."
- "Oh, my mind would always be with my little one anyway, such an evening alone, that wouldn't be for me. As a mom, you can't enjoy that at all!"
- "What if it doesn't stop screaming? Or has your partner kept the wrong temperature in the bottle? Did you write everything down?"
- "Is your cell phone loud too? Not that anything happens!"
- "So that you can look forward to a weekend alone … maybe children weren't for you after all?"
- "What does your husband eat when you eat out today?"
- "Well, you seem so relaxed, don't you miss your family at all?"
- "So that you can do it …"
Can we finally stop snooping around in other lives and intrusively leaving a few reproaches between the lines? Next time, let's just give each other an encouraging smile instead of unnecessary questions – because we can use that much more. Believe it or not, many mothers doubt their decisions too much anyway. We really don't need a pinch of salt in the wound. But it is an empowering message!
P.S .: We are talking explicitly about mothers in this article because we noticed that they are confronted with the said allegations much more often – especially when the children are with the father. While dads are awarded pub evenings without any problems, should mommies be ashamed of them? Stop it!
P.P.S .: Is wonderfully suitable for a bullshit bingo among parents who have just parked their child with babysitters. 😉