Do you always carry frustration and anger around with you for so long? Let him go – it's really quick!
Do you feel the same way: Sometimes something happens that you get really upset about and the anger is with you all day long? It rests on your shoulders like a heavy package. On the blog "Mymonk" a story from Buddhist Zen teaching is told, which helps you to deal better with anger:
An ancient Buddhist story
One student asked his master how he could better deal with anger. The Zen master replied:
"Imagine it's a foggy day. You are out on the lake with your boat. You can hardly see anything through the fog. Until suddenly another boat approaches you through the swaths.
You get angry. You think: Oh my ass, I only repainted my boat yesterday … and the strange boat crashes into yours. You can almost hear the fresh paint that you painstakingly applied yesterday peeling off. Anger! Then you take a closer look and see: the other boat is empty. Nobody in there. Nobody who rammed you on purpose. Your anger evaporates. You sigh and think: What the hell, then I'll have to paint again soon. It worked for you. "
The Zen master continued:
"It is the same with everything in life and with all the people you meet: It's like we're being rammed by an empty boat."
The student said:
"Hmm, there's something there. But even if I see that the boat is empty: I will first curse the whole world and just imagine that someone is sitting in the boat who wants to harm me on purpose. "
Then the master replied:
"Probably true. That's how we humans tick. But the more we practice, the easier we can calm down and see how ridiculous and useless it is to hold on to anger. The empty boat is always to blame. ”
Think of the empty boat!
So the trick is to think of the empty boat at every annoying event. Take a deep breath, empty boat, take a deep breath. Because only in the rarest of cases does someone deliberately harm you. So it's not worth getting upset about. It just happens without anyone really being to blame.
With a little practice, you can get the anger out within a few seconds. Create a picture of an empty boat that you can call up again and again. You will see it works!