LGBTQ +: 10 sentences queer people can no longer hear

LGBTQ +
10 sentences that queer people can no longer hear

One thing in advance: If you are queer or belong to the LGBTQ + community and read the following statements, we warn you: The following sentences can cause your eyes to roll violently.

For everyone else: Maybe you feel caught reading because you’ve already said one or the other sentence yourself and are now thinking: “Hey, I didn’t mean that badly!”. However, this does not prevent the statement from being violated in most cases. It is all the more important that you are here now, because most likely you clicked on the article so that exactly that doesn’t happen to you anymore. So, let’s go:

1. It’s just a phase

Warning: Being straight is also a phase and next week you might be gay. (* Irony off *)

2. Who of you is actually the woman / man in the relationship?

Counter question: Which chopsticks in the Asian snack bar is the knife and which is the fork? Joking aside: Strangely, people often analyze the relationship between queer couples and compare it with the “classic” heteronormative relationship model (between man and woman). This can only go wrong! Because as with straight couples – every partnership is different.

3. But not that you fall in love with me now

Sometimes it doesn’t hurt to take a close look at your own love life and the behaviors that go with it. In other words: You don’t immediately fall in love with everyone you get to know. And admit it sounds a bit narcissistic, doesn’t it?

4. I have nothing against gay men, but …

… just let it stick.

5. You can’t see that at all!

Or, to put it another way: pigeonhole thinking at its finest. Yes, the head likes to work with clichés. In this way you can better classify and assess other people when you get to know each other. But one must consciously counteract this power of habit. Not every person – queer or straight – corresponds to one pattern and none of them have their sexual orientation written on their foreheads.

6. Don’t you want to have children later?

A sentence that often causes frustration in women in general because the desire to have children is a very intimate topic. In addition, one must not forget that there are alternatives (adoption, artificial insemination, etc.).

7. Oh, what a waste for the straight world!

These statements fall under the category: Well meant, but poorly implemented.

This is what trans people are often confronted with

8. Were you born in the wrong body?

There is no such thing as a “wrong body” per se. Because certain optical features do not determine a person’s identity.

9. Have you already had the operation?

There is usually no such thing as one operation. In addition: The question is very intimate and could possibly cross a boundary for the person.

10. When you were still (name) …

Many trans people who come out find the discarded name very uncomfortable. By the way: There is even a term for the behavior of calling someone by their old name – deadnaming.

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