Living under the control of others: 5 signs that others have too much power over you

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5 signs other people have too much power over you

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You don’t let anyone talk you in? Top! Then these five signals shouldn’t tell you anything …

Let’s not kid ourselves: we all live in a controlled manner, and not too tightly. The social ideal of beauty tells us how we want to look, the prices in the supermarket and in online shopping portals determine how much we want to earn, and if someone criticizes us or makes us stupid, it upsets us at least for a short time.

We are just social beings and live in a community with shared values, rules and, yes, somehow also goals (whether they are that great is of course the constant question …). We can all / have to see to it that sooner or later we find ourselves within the framework of these guidelines. That we develop an identity that defines us and z. B. Provides security in our decisions. Then we can feel good without conforming to the ideal of beauty, don’t necessarily have to have the new trend pieces every season and can laugh about it when others think we are stupid. Are you on the right track? See for yourself …

5 signs other people have too much power over you

1. You are stressed out about things that you have to do

No time for you? Funny … your life is after all! When you feel like doing things have to, you should definitely ask yourself why exactly you are doing these things. Does anyone ask you? Do you want to keep up with someone? Or impress someone? None of these are good reasons to do something, because they aren’t yours Reasons.

2. You always try to convince others of your opinion

Confused when someone has a different opinion than you? Or is it driving you completely crazy? Hmm, that should get you thinking. After all, you could theoretically stand by your opinion if you were convinced of it, no matter what others think of it. If this is difficult for you, there are actually only two options: You are not at all convinced of your opinion yourself (maybe because it’s not really yours is …) or the opinion of others is more important to you than your own. Neither of these speak for a particularly mature identity, to be honest.

3. You do everything you can to avoid conflict

Just not offend? Just don’t attract attention – it could be negative? Phew, then let someone else write a wish list on how best to behave. If you your If you follow the path, you will inevitably get in someone’s way – because that is his Path follows. Of course, you can also avoid collisions at all costs. But then you make your way past those of the others. If that’s enough self-determination for you, okay.

4. You justify yourself often

Do you really enjoy explaining your decisions to others? Or your mistakes? Sure, otherwise you wouldn’t understand! But guess what: they don’t have to! Nobody has to understand or approve what you are doing for it to be right. Your decisions are – as long as others are not directly affected – only yours, just like your mistakes and what you learn from them. If someone wants to understand you, they can ask you. If you explain yourself without being asked, the image that others have of you is obviously more important to you than your self-image (or is directly related to it).

5. You feel guilty for no reason

Sometimes you have a guilty conscience and don’t really know why? If you z. B. you can’t manage your planned workload because something urgent has come up? Or because you ordered pizza instead of a salad? Who do you feel guilty about? But hardly you! If you put yourself and your well-being first, you would know that you did just the right thing by prioritizing the urgent. You have limits and you can’t do everything and respecting that is just wise. And pizza … if you felt like it! Many feelings of guilt arise because we assume others have expectations of ourselves which, firstly, they often don’t even have and, secondly, they have to communicate to us themselves if they do have them. Either way: Fulfilling other people’s (unspoken) expectations is not your job!

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