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These 4 sex lies are unforgivable
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Not pretty, but true: people lie. A study has shown that sex lies are the worst.
Honesty is essential in all human relationships because lying is a serious breach of trust. When it comes to intimate encounters, the Untruth can have fatal consequences – especially when it comes to sex.
Hand on heart: are you always honest?
If we’re being honest, we do sometimes resort to a white lie or two – to avoid hurting others, to save ourselves from embarrassment, or to avoid uncomfortable discussions. It’s not ideal, but unfortunately human.
However, it gets really difficult when someone else is harmed by our lies and when it turns out that we lied. For this reason alone, one should force oneself to speak unpleasant truths.
Study: These sex lies weigh the heaviest
California pay-TV provider DirecTV has asked 2,000 people to confess their lies. In the next step, they should classify the severity of all lies as one scale from one to five classify. The four lies that participants rated as the most reprehensible all have to do with sex. And no, it wasn’t about centimeters.
1) “I take the pill” (4.52 points)
The “pill lie” is an enormous breach of trust and the consequences can be immense: A child may be conceived that the father did not want. But everyone wants to be loved by both parents. This lie is even worse when it speculates on the maintenance payments of the involuntary father.
2) “I care about more than just sex” (3.56 points)
Getting someone to have sex by feigning feelings is pathetic because it involves heartbreak.
3) “I had x sex partners” (3.46 points)
Men tend to round up, women tend to down – this has to do with the double standards that are anchored in our society: men with few sexual partners tend to be considered inexperienced to unattractive, women with many lovers are quickly considered “whores”. Incidentally, according to a British study, most people wish that their partner had already had sex with two to three people.
4) “You are the: the first” (3.23 points)
We just find this lie silly.