One day I was fed up! Tired of reading these articles which make us believe that love with a capital A is out of date, even illusory. That infidelity is an almost obligatory passage. That it shouldn’t be offended because it’s good for a couple’s balance. Tired …
Tired … of feeling like you are has-been or too naive because I believed in my couple, in our commitment, in this Yes traded 15 years ago.
Tired of a society that gives pride of place to extra-marital relations sites. Who normalize them and even advertise them in summer on family beaches.
Tired of ignoring the pain of separation, the wounds it leaves in a child's heart, the physical and mental pain it represents.
Tired of this message: "Live what you have to live, enjoy, enjoy. All this only has a time! The day it derails, run away! Another story awaits you somewhere. ”
So, I wanted to act. Say loud and clear that YES, it is possible! That it is certainly demanding and that it requires constant attention, daily work, an iron will even sometimes. But that it is possible, the love of a lifetime.
Lifetime love is possible and not naive
Quite the contrary. I am perfectly aware of what it means to want to make a couple last.
Listen, give, seduce, communicate, forgive, wait, take the time, accept, understand … Apply from the start, do not skip the steps, ask yourself the right questions before getting started. Prepare for life together. Then get started and decide to make your couple a priority. Despite his professional, family life, daily management, social relationships … Give yourself the time and the means to always favor your couple. Plan your time as a couple, even make it sacred. Make appointments. For small dates or crazy breakaways. And above all, do not deviate from it.
All this for what? For feed her couple, bring it to life, let it breathe, exist and thus take the place it deserves and it needs to last.
I regularly hear that in thinking this and in seeking to defend the values of love, I am against the grain. But I am nevertheless firmly convinced that we all aspire to a lasting and living love, even after 5, 10, 20 or 30 years of common life.
Are you one of those who want to believe in the longevity of their couple?
Of those who would like to have the keys to make it last, not by obligation or resignation, but by love? Of those who want to move against the tide? So I give you an appointment on Aufeminin, every month, to inspire you, to deliver tips – tested and approved in my own couple – and to help you, I hope, to (re) place your couple in the heart of your existence.
In the meantime, you can discover Save Your Love Date, the communication tools that I have designed to encourage lovers to spend quality time together, to stay connected to each other and to discuss the essentials of couple life. A one-year adventure, to be lived alone, to make your couple a we indissoluble.
Discover the concept on saveyourlovedate.fr and on @saveyourlovedate.
And in audio with the podcast "Be Wise and Speak Strong" or "Chalalove".