Mommy's Vocabulary: 2 Words That You Should Use More Often

As a mom, you pay attention to so much – including the right wording. A psychologist explains which words to use more often and which ones to avoid.

Mums are constantly questioning themselves. Do I have enough time for my children? Am I cooking healthy enough? Am I too strict or too lax? Am I a good role model? It is clear that we always want to give the best for our little ones. But no mother or father is perfect – and they don't have to be.

One thing that can be improved well and without great effort is one's own language. And it's not about any major adjustment screws at all. No, small changes can make a big difference.

Says at least the US psychologist Dr. Robyn Koslowitz. She revealed to the portal Purewow.com which 2 words mothers should use more often and which 2 are better to avoid.

"AND"

If we use "and" instead of "but", it helps us to formulate positive criticism and to show the child: Even if you have just done something wrong, I will love and support you. Example: Instead "You're a smart kid, but you have to get better at maths" we say "You are a smart kid and you have to get better at math ". The "and" as a connecting word makes it clear that you can be smart at the same time, but have a weakness in math. And very important: The appreciation at the beginning of the sentence is not destroyed again.

"YET"

Often times when we think of our children we think of something like: She / he is so messy or she / he cannot be on time. According to Koslowitz, however, we should be aware that children are not finished "products" and that such reviews think: He / she is STILL untidy or STILL cannot be on time. Children develop themselves and their abilities and as parents we should trust them.

"EASY"

Formulations like "Just do your homework now" or "Just play with the others"are of little help to children. Because it is often not" easy "for the little ones to get down to math problems or to speak to foreign children. As parents, we should rather show our protégés understanding and show them the positive or negative consequences of their actions. For example, say: "If you do your homework, we can fly the kite faster" or "I know this is uncomfortable for you right now, but if you don't do your job, you will have problems at school tomorrow ".

"BUT"

To shorten it: Now you just scroll up to the paragraph under the heading "And" … ?

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