“Money Slave” what is this sexual fantasy more common than you think?

There are as many sexual fantasies only potential partners: the fantasy coming from the imagination, it is specific to each one. Something that arouses sexual excitement in one can thus cause disgust in the neighbor… BDSM is moreover one of those “controversial” sexual fantasies that divide public opinion. Bringing together all sexual practices linked to Bondage, Discipline, Domination Submission, Sadomasochism, it also encompasses a very popular fantasy on the internet: that of “Slavic money” – said “financial slave” in French.

In view of its name, it is not complicated to understand that the fantasy is based on financial domination ! On the one hand, there is the submissive or the submissive, which is called “Money slave”; on the other, there is the dominator or the dominatrix, who is designated by “Moneymaster” Or “Money Mistress”. The principle is simple: the submissive takes pleasure in giving money to his “domina”, as soon as the latter imposes it on him, gives him the order. To establish his authority, he can content himself with using firmness, or even go so far as to humiliate and “mistreat” him (respecting the limits set). And according to followers, the sexual desire is all the more intense as the injunction is strict, the lack of respect is great and the taboo is immense…

“Money slave”: how does it go from pure fantasy to reality?

In setting up such fantasies, which are considered taboo and forbidden in the Doxa, one often wonders how the first contact is established; how the two partners manage to break the ice. New technologies have something to do with it: today all it takes is a click to go from theory to practice! Indeed, the Money master (or the Money mistress) acts on social networks by displaying his “sexual activity” in his bio. Our colleagues from Stylist explain that they often prefer Twitter, which is particularly suited to the practice. Using specialized hashtags, publications/tweets with daring and specialized jargon, he markets himself to entice, attract, refine the product he is and differentiate himself from others on the “market”. #paypig, #moneyslave #cashslave #moneymiss #findom #pigeon are all terms used in profile descriptions to entice potential financial submissives. Tweets that gratuitously insult those who read them are also a great way to “advertise” yourself and demonstrate the full extent of your “abilities”.

Most of the time, the first contact is therefore initiated by the submissive who comes to the dominatorcontacts him spontaneously to establish Money slavery relationship. But the message alone is not enough to clearly express one’s will to the domina concerned: to do this, one must first carry out a first spontaneous transaction. This also provides access to a more personalized relationship between master and submissive. In this sense, financial dominators (= “dominas”) often provide anyone who comes across their profile with a link to their online kitty. The Money slave only has to click, pay the desired sum of money, to satisfy his urges. The domina can also put a link to an Amazon wishlist: like a birth list, the submissive thus picks among the desired items and pays him for his desired Money master.

“Money slavery” in practice(s)?

When a semblance of a lasting “sexual adventure” is established, the Money master can receive the money via other payment channels: Paypal, Lydia, bank transfer… Cash transactions can also be set up: these are the famous “DAB plans”. The two interlocutors then arrange to meet in front of cash dispensers, and the submissives are forced to withdraw the sum of money imposed by their master while being controlled, humiliated, and/or filmed. Some cash-strapped Money Slaves are doubling their inventiveness and choosing to send restaurant tickets or gift vouchers. Even more surprisingly, this financial domination-submission can be done through shopping : the Money slave does the shopping for his Money master, is bullied throughout his shopping session and can even deliver them directly to his home; almost as if he were his minion.

In most cases, the relationship between the two parties don’t leave the virtual world and is done remotely, through written messages, webcams, video calls, during which the master insults and humiliates the submissive as he pleases. In the same line, chastisement and punishmentspecific to relationships of domination-submission or sadomasochism, are not imposed in a physical way (with spanking for example), but verbally (oral or written) : reprimands, insults, vulgar vocabulary, authoritarian tone. Money slavering therefore rarely goes beyond the shared sexual relationship : it always oscillates between “dream” and reality, without ever locking itself into one or the other of the two aspects (and it is also in this too that it remains a fantasy). In any event, the enjoyment drawn from this fantasy does not even come from the idea of ​​making love with the other. But then, if physical intercourse is not what thrills Money slaves and Money masters, what is the origin of their fantasy? What is the hidden wish that their subconscious makes? What’s exciting about that?

What excites in financial domination-submission?

• The transgression of taboos and prohibitions

Money slavering combines two taboo subjects decried by society: money and sexuality. Thus, combining the two in a single practice may seem problematic, taboo, forbidden in the eyes of some. It is this semblance of transgression of taboos and prohibitions that can excite some.

• For submissives: letting go, abandoning labels and responsibilities related to their standard of living

In a world where capitalism is king, money is power. Financially well-off people, as well as those who are highly placed in the professional hierarchy (CEOs), therefore hold more privileges than others. But with the privileges also come the responsibilities… More considered than their peers, these rich people are also more spied on, more judged than them: their social status forces them to constantly control themselves ; the consequences of their actions and judgments against them being greater than for the rest of society.

Since it is money that gives them this authority coupled with constraints, letting go is letting go : in abandoning it, they abandon themselves. Accustomed to controlling everything in real life, they want to let go of the reins in their sex life, to let themselves go and have fun. And that’s precisely what they find when they get into Money slavery. As recalled by psychoanalysis, fantasy is the opportunity to explore roles that one does not dare to assume in real life, whether by choice or spite. This is why some of these individuals with high social value are turned on by the fact of being financially submissive to someone..

What interest for the dominant?

• For dominas: having authority over others

Of course, some masters and mistresses are purely financially motivated. Who would turn down an all-expenses-paid cell phone in exchange for insulting someone who wants to be bullied? For these Money masters, “money is the sinews of war”. But while the pecuniary benefits of the practice are obvious to those who dominate and receive the tickets, a few dominas interviewed explain that money is not their primary motivation. In reality, it is only one of the levers available to accomplish what really excites them: dominate and make others suffer.

Anyway, the Money Masters and Mistresses who only fantasize about money quickly become disillusioned : it is rare that they obtain large sums from the same “financial slave”, either punctually or over the long term. Indeed, this implies having a very good standard of living, but today, the competition is tougher; the kink having become highly popular and inflation hitting hard.

Another noteworthy fact: very often, the financial dominas are women, while submissives are men. How to explain that the gender gap extends to this fantasy in particular? The Money mistresses explain that financial domination is omnipresent for women in real life: it is therefore rather logical that they do not choose to be subjugated by money in their sexual life since they are already submissive in their daily life.