Missionary, doggy style, lotus… Have you already experienced multiple Kamasutra positions and want to break the routine? To take pleasure in a different way, the possibilities are endless. How about mutual masturbation?
Masturbation is often a solitary act. However, it can be integrated into the couple and even have many benefits on the sex life. Mutual masturbation thus consists of watching one's partner caress and doing the same on his side. But what are the benefits of this practice?
What are the benefits of mutual masturbation?
- Connect to the other
To practice masturbation together is to let the other enter an even more intimate sphere. This experience therefore allows you to get closer and feel closer than ever to your partner. "Mutual masturbation allows you to have an experience as a couple, gives you the feeling of being connected, but also to better control your own pleasure and the type of touch that you like to receive", explain to Inside hook American psychotherapist and sex counselor Ian Kerner.
- Identify what pleases the other
No one knows himself better than himself. We are therefore in the best position to know what gives us pleasure. Watching your partner masturbate is also getting to know him better. You can thus observe his gestures or his rhythm to better reproduce them and satisfy him. And vice versa !
Sex is often associated – wrongly! – the notion of performance. Many people focus solely on achieving orgasm and making their partner come during sex. Mutual masturbation often relieves this weight. And for good reason: each is responsible for his own pleasure and feeds on the other to reach seventh heaven.
Mutual masturbation also allows you to approach sexuality in a different way. And it is well known: breaking habits increases desire! Especially since this practice appeals to different senses: you can concentrate on the sight of your partner caressing, but also on the moans they make or the rhythm of their breathing. "When you masturbate together – looking, listening, feeling, helping, encouraging, etc. – you are participating in the pleasure experience of the other", explains to the site Shape Indigo Wolfe, sex educator.
Mutual masturbation: things to know to start smoothly
We know: in matters of sexuality, there are no instructions for use. However, learning about mutual masturbation can seem awkward to some. And for good reason : "We are used to ourselves masturbate alone and we don't want the way we do it to be seen as weird by someone else (…) We are taught (sometimes) that masturbation is shameful or weird, and that having to be masturbating with his partner indicates some kind of deficiency in his sex life ", explains to Vice Alexandria Williams, Founder of the Sexual Health Blog Sexology Bae.
Going beyond this misconception is not always easy, which is why it can be interesting to know the different options available to try mutual masturbation. Always keeping in mind that the imagination of couples is their only limit! This is also the reason why communication is essential before experimenting with new practices.
For a gentle introduction to mutual masturbation, you can, for example, lie on your back, side by side. By settling in this way, you have the possibility to contemplate your partner and to kiss him, without having to feel his gaze on you permanently. A good option to let go!
Another possibility: revisit Kamasutra positions to experience mutual masturbation without losing all your bearings. For example, you can bet on the Andromache. While your partner is lying on their back, you can sit astride them. Penetration then gives way to masturbation. You can then stroke each other, while your partner does the same. But you can also stimulate your clitoris and your partner's sex by rubbing this area against their pubis.
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