This mother wanted to testify for the parents media, she tells how she learned that her child born a girl was a boy.
Sensitive children often know better than we do what they need. Despite their young age, they feel negative and sad things, because sometimes they feel out of place. Many children know that they were born in the wrong body. This is the case with 4-year-old Shane, born a girl, he quickly indicated he wanted to be a boy.
"What happens when you die?", asks the boy one day.”How does reincarnation work? (…) “I believe in reincarnation,” he says. “And when I come back, I'll be a boy, and my name will be Shane.”
At that time, this mother saw her daughter, Isabel, as a "tomboy" who dressed in boy's clothes “Who loved mud puddles, forts, superheroes and zombies”.
“SWeren't the closest friends boys? Has she ever played with the My Little Pony she got for Christmas? Didn't all the pink or purple outfits end up in the unworn clothes bag? Didn't she like it when other people mistook her for a girl? ”, wonders this mother, without really paying attention.
"It's nothing. It's just a phase ”
Indeed, for this mother, there was nothing abnormal about “Behave like a boy”, because after all, she behaved the same when she was younger. “I have never been a girly girl. I rarely wore makeup. I hated shopping. Most of what society saw as feminine went against who I was, ”she recalls.
Shane, he never felt "girl", and this, from a young age. At 2 years old, he categorically refuses to put on dresses. At 4, he naturally went to the men's section in the shops, for clothes. "I leaned over and hissed quietly," This is the boys section. You have a girl's body. These clothes are not made for your body. ", remembers the mother. “But we went out with jeans, a Transformers shirt, a baseball cap and three pairs of boys' briefs.”
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At the end of kindergarten, a graduation ceremony was organized by the school. The young woman then wanted to make Shane wear a pink uniform, who categorically refused. “When we got to school, the other girls were wearing puffy princess dresses. Most of the boys wore costumes, and there was my child, riding both worlds in his blue polo shirt and pink pants. ”
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“There was no doubt. It was a boy ”
At 6 years old, Shane and his father started having arguments. Like when Shane wanted a short Buzz Lightyear hairstyle, while his father wanted to leave his hair long. Arguments that led to the couple's separation, as the mother says: “Could this be the thing that led to our divorce?” To successfully understand their child, the small family turned to a psychologist. After talking to Shane, the specialist figured out he was a boy. “Your son said something interesting”, says the psychologist. "He said he doesn't think his parents are ready yet."
After this session, this mom made an effort, she began to recognize Shane, as a boy. “One day, in a public swimming pool, with no one around us who knew us, I agreed to call him Shane”, she says. “We've made it possible for him to be a boy in more places and situations. I told my parents about it. Then some friends. Then his teacher. Then the director. Then more friends. Then more family. Then the lady who plucked my eyebrows. ”
From now on, there is no longer any doubt, Isabel no longer exists. We'll have to talk to Shane now. “There was no doubt. It was a boy. He wasn't just any boy either. It was my boy. My incredibly smart, funny, quirky, kind, just awesome boy. A boy I was proud and grateful to have. "
A little guy who can finally blossom and learn to love himself. (All first names have been changed, Parents indicates).