Lola told us that her partner had a small penis and that she took little pleasure. Upset, she would like to find solutions to adapt. Our expert and journalist Caroline Michel is happy to answer him.
Right off the bat, I could recall that if size mattered, the elephant would be king of the jungle. But I am well aware that this is not enough: for Lola, obviously, the size of the penis matters, in particular because she takes little pleasure with her partner. You might think that’s screwed up, since you can’t pull on a penis to enlarge it. But Lola is looking for solutions and she is right. Of course, it’s not fucked up. In nature, there are all penises, but also all vaginasand let’s not believe that each jar has its lid: there are solutions to close the jar.
I would like to start by recalling that the average size of an erect penis is 12.9 centimeters. The figure comes from a study published in 1996 in the Journal of Urology, but promised, the following searches hardly vary in terms of results. In 2014, BJU International, a urology journal, gave us the figure of 13.12 centimeters. In short, a penis remains a penis, we are around 13 centimeters. As for the micropenis, it is unfortunately little defined, but the speeches tend to affirm that below 7 centimeters, we are in the microphone.
Penis size remains subjective
Alright, and after that? Should we consider that a penis which measures 11 centimeters in erection is small? No, it’s just below average. Besides, a penis that measures 9 centimeters is not small either. Or if, and here I come: the size of the penis remains subjective. Let me explain: 9 centimeters is small for some, large for others, still average for others. It all depends on the yards we met (if they were all huge, how to accommodate the least huge of them?), our expectations in this regard, and especially from the experience that we begin with said penis. So ultimately, the size of Lola’s partner’s penis is of little interest to us. What we want is to understand how Lola can flourish with this data.
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I would have a rather psychic advice and a rather practical advice. The shrink: shake up his vision of penises and their missions. In other words: as long as we imagine that a penis must be big, then give everything during penetration, we are more likely to be disappointed. Who said a penis should look like a beam that never runs out of steam? Let’s give back to porn movies what belongs to porn movies.
On the practical side, let’s stretch the psy counseling: what if we just got out of penetration? And if we took advantage of the caresses? Of course, we can insist on penetration, in which case we will move towards suitable positions, such as Andromaque. By being on top of your partner, you can more orient the angle of penetration until you flirt with pleasant sensations. The missionary will be very good too, especially if you try to lift your legs, spread them a lot or not at all.
In short: let’s look for the vagina-penis contact! I cannot conclude without specifying two things: a small penis does not necessarily lack flesh, and often, in penetration, the caresses of the vaginal walls are more pleasant than the blows of acorns at the bottom of the vagina. Excuse the outspokenness and see what you prefer, always being that the circumference greatly plays its part in the famous vagina-penis contactmuch more than the length.
Finally, if nothing helps, we can dig deeper: is the dissatisfaction due to the size, only to the size? Sometimes the small penis is the tree that hides the forest. Opening a discussion about it can be a good thing. The idea is not to complex the other by telling him that we do not take pleasure for many reasons (including this big deal), but to seek, together, how to encourage our sexuality, because after all, there are two of us, so let’s stop believing that the penis is at the heart of the relationship and responsible for everything.
Psycho and sex journalist
Caroline Michel is a journalist in psycho sexo and author. Passionate, she enjoys dissecting everyday life and looking for the right words (which she hopes to find often). She is the author of…