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Open Casting, Wanderlove, Sexploration: These are the dating trends of 2023
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Dating will be exciting again in the coming year – hopefully not only in a negative sense when we chat with friends about terrible experiences. Here are the trends for 2023.
Are you almost tired of dating after this year? Do we know. At least all the singles among us. But with a few new dating ideas, we might rekindle the fire in us — and in those around us. It’s probably worth a try. After all, dating is like eating: try it – and stick with it if it tastes good. Well, let’s see if we like the dating trends for 2023:
guardrailing
Erm…rails…guarding? No not really. The English word “guardrail” means “crash barrier” in German. And what is she doing? She keeps us on the right track. This also applies to guardrailing: We set more personal boundaries and listen to ourselves. We communicate our emotional needs more clearly and we are more attentive when it comes to opening ourselves up to others. It’s also about not jumping and going out immediately at every opportunity, but rather everything at your own pace without planning in too much pressure. Because what is a diary full of dates next to a lot of self-affirmation? That’s right: stress. Take your time choosing who makes it onto your list. The first feeling is more like “meeeeh”? Then don’t force anything that your stomach is already trying to prevent. Do you understand each other straight away? Maybe he:she is a first date that will even be remembered positively.
Ethical sex ploration
Yes, English names are just hip. And new sex trends are also hip. Or the idea of doing something new and exciting instead of sticking to the missionary position. Of course only if you want it yourself. More and more people seem to be open and adventurous when it comes to sex, intimacy and dating. And sexual desires and needs are important when you get to know another person. It can go well together – or not at all. For example, because your own sex drive is high, medium, very low or non-existent. By the way, that’s all fine. There are many forms of love and relationships – and being clear about what you want and what you cannot imagine is a good basis for dating.
love-life balance
A good work-life balance is becoming increasingly important. And not only with ourselves, but also with the people we want to be with. It’s also clear: We can take a wonderful vacation alone in the Maldives or pack up the girls and fly to Italy. But that may cause bad blood in the long run. With a good work-life balance, you can enjoy the time with others and your partner, as well as he/she with his/her circle of friends and of course you. So it stays balanced and you are still true to yourself.
Wanderlove
With this trend you probably don’t get on your nerves all the time. Wanderlove doesn’t mean that you climb a new mountain every weekend or that you have to graze all hiking routes in Germany in 2023. It means that more and more people are more open to forming relationships with people who live in another city. Due to the new flexibility in working life, more and more Germans seem to be able to imagine that. Sometimes working for you, sometimes for him: her. Sometimes apart, sometimes together. This can keep love fresh with the right people and makes for exciting meetings.
Open casting
You just sit down on a park bench with a “Date Wanted” sign next to it – and see what happens. Small joke. Open casting is about not getting too attached to your dream guy, but also giving other people a chance. If you normally only give the dark-haired, blue-eyed guy a chance (guilty as charged!), then you might want to open up this notion to this trend. I have to say: That sounds too much like grandma’s sayings, which I fought for years. I’m more in favor of just doing your own thing – whether single or dating. Sure, a cool character or great sense of humor can mean a lot more than just looks. But especially in online dating, you often don’t get that. So here is an appeal to all profile owners out there: Can’t you just upload selfies, blurry pictures and just one sentence? Thanks. Then maybe we all judge less according to the one-millisecond swipe away principle.
And without online life?
I know. Online dating has become the standard for many when it comes to meeting people. We often forget that it doesn’t have to be like this. If you really want to meet someone but have failed too many times this year, taking a break may be best for your personal well-being. Or a break from all the online experiences. Instead, there are also the following options for boarding without them:
- use networks: You have friends who love and know you. And they have other friends that you may not know who are NORMAL. That can be an absolute plus if you’re willing to meet new people. It may be uncomfortable for you, but there is a likelihood that you will get through your circle of friends to a person with whom you get along well. Above all, the first meeting doesn’t have to be an awkward date, but can also take the form of a sit-in with people you like. That makes getting to know each other a little less stressful.
- Be active yourself: We often feel like we can’t get to know anyone outside. But that’s not entirely true. It can even happen on your own doorstep, for example during a walk. Dog lovers will find one with an “Oh, what a beautiful dog!” quickly into a conversation. Or you force your people to go to the cinema, the bar or an event. Sometimes that’s how you start talking to other people and, above all, you don’t forget that you can do it. Another alternative: Get out of your comfort zone and simply take a sports or language course that you feel like doing. In any case, you have an interest in common.
Another option: Does it really have to be? Not everyone wants a relationship at all. If you are such a person: good for you! Don’t let yourself be persuaded that this is part of life if you are happy alone or only with your circle of friends. Your attitude may or may not change over time.
Source used: Bumble, own research