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Our colleague wants to move. Or not? The starting position is complicated, as is the housing market. Because Dorthe Hansen can't find an answer, her mother, a coin and some magic help.

Test object: Dorthe Hansen 'a loyal tenant.

Test environment: The apartment 'in which she has lived for 16 years' and the "Hexerey" in Hamburg-Winterhude.

Mission: Draw the correct conclusions (l) from the overall situation.

The decisive moment is just around the corner …

My problem is small 'although it is big. So: a little too big and a little too expensive. My apartment and I don't fit together anymore. I believe. Sometimes. A friend says 'then just move' and keeps sending me apartment advertisements. Another friend says 'stay there' you'll never find anything like that again. The two are absolutely right. That's the problem. And then I still have emotions in between.

There were three of us when we moved in here. For two years there have only been two of us 'and if my son also moves out' which could happen in a year or so 'should happen in four years at the latest' the apartment will be really too big. That's why there are so many questions in my head: Wouldn't it be better to "downsize" immediately and move again together? Wouldn't moving be a good step towards a new start anyway? Would smaller be cheaper?

I see clearly on the last question: For 'what I pay in rent here' we would get significantly fewer square meters today '' no balcony and a worse location for us. Despite constant rent increases 'which come here with terrifying regularity and hurt me personally', our rent is comparatively cheap. Very old lease. Therefore: Why roll over the apartment topic at all while the child is still in the house? Isn't it nice if at least something stays? Do I want to be left here alone? Jeez

My inner question time builds up in me like a leaning tower of blocks' but also creates space for strange living fantasies. The last: a tiny house in my parents' garden 'far corner' just behind the greenhouse. How great! Or? My parents answered in their North German way 'through the flowerbed, so to speak: There they put up a little house without further ado – for bicycles and such.

"So the place is: gone."

I would like an assessment from the side, however, 'and my mother is ideally suited for this' because she has the necessary degree of distance and closeness: she feels with me 'but doesn't like my apartment very much ("cluttered old building")' but has also a topic of change of location 'because as a teenager she had to leave her parents' house behind' when she fled from Darß to the west. Well, 'my situation is ridiculously small,' I say. My mom still understands me 'I pray her every pros and cons' and she thinks out loud:' That would be difficult for me too. With this she hits a point: How should I get excited about something that is so vague? I would have to develop a passion for the search first, do it more continuously and certainly at a different time of day.

Because logically I look every now and then for apartments 'at night' when I can't sleep. Then I scroll through all the real estate portals from one page to the other. I eye 'what would be in it', set the basic rent higher and at the same time go down with the number of rooms. I study floor plans and weigh up whether the refrigerator is allowed and where the litter box could be. I check the bike route from there to school and to the editorial office. The ways are long. I'm exhausted just looking. But if I can still do a little bit then I switch to the "Buy" section and get the knock-out.

"Sense of living instead of madness"

Basically, something can be done out of mom's considerations: home search as a hobby 'sightseeing tourism', homely instead of madness. Sounds funny. Until the moment when 'my neighbors', whom I have known for 15 years, 'announce' that they have too much cake in the house and urgently need my support. It really is so nice to live here.

Actually, I would like 'someone to push aside all my thoughts like a heavy curtain and reveal' what is going to happen. Magical 'my wish is heard: I stumble upon an interview' in which Elanor vom Eichenmoor talks about white magic ', "building up' healing 'growing". The woman is a witch and doesn't work very far from me. A week later I'm sitting in the "witches room" of her "witchcraft", where she will lay the cards for me. That has nothing to do with magic, however, with one's own intuition and the possibility of a top view. I'm as tense as before a presentation. First we formulate a question: Which living space situation would be beneficial for me? A fresh start or keep the old one?

Hocus-pocus

Lets go. Frau vom Eichenmoor shuffles the 78 cards' very routinely ', after all she's been doing it for 25 years' and yet suddenly she slips a card out. If that's a trick 'then it's pretty good: "Aha"' she says '"Exactly. These are the' two of swords '' your current situation." She tells' what the card stands for 'I prefer to look it up again later' because I think it's completely crazy: 'symbolizes inner conflict and doubt' reminds us' that it is important 'to find a balance between reason and emotion ".

Mix. Then I choose one of three stacks' and the card reader reveals: the star '"for the hope of' taking a new course". The high priestess because "on a rational level you will not solve this problem". She puts card after card from top to bottom 'first three rows next to each other' and tells' what's going on. Here is my favorite card dialogue: The "Page of the Coins" says: I have an idea! The "four of the coins" says: No way! The "ace of rods" says: We'll do that! The "Seven of Swords" says: Actually, I just want to run away …

Moving – Nothing?

Elanor vom Eichenmoor says: "You see: Into the potatoes, get out of the potatoes. These first three lines indicate quite a struggle." She continues. For example: the "wheel of fate" stands for "it will not stay the way it is now". So am I moving? Looking at the overall situation, Elanor vom Eichenmoor says: "You're not moving. Nothing to be done." And then it becomes more specific: 'The apartment is only a proxy for a conflict' that I resolve with myself. But because the "hierophant" is lying there too, "she has great hope" that a realization "a click moment is imminent" "in a flash" "she says" "I would locate it almost as early as July" although times are very difficult in Tarot Realization helps you to 'channel your willpower. Your apartment has potential' and the 'magician' here reveals that potential. " Then there is the "nine of the coins" "Elanor vom Eichenmoor calls her" the feel-good card – that's where we want to go 'this lady stands in her garden full of lush fruits' she is satisfied in herself' has everything 'she needs' and has it's just made nice. The next logical decision for you would be to 'find out the reason' why you want to get out of there. And then to say: No, I'm staying. "

The session lasts almost an hour 'and while Elanor describes my situation and the prospects almost unmoved by the oak moor,' I notice 'how pleasant the thought is' to see the good and to hold on to the old home. She doesn't like this attitude at all. She taps on the "four of the coins" '"look' this one 'he holds the coins with his hands and feet' so tightly 'that he can no longer move. It takes a transformation. Think again from scratch' there are possibilities' to use the apartment differently. " Please no flat share 'it shoots through my head' and that's what I say. That's because I can also do good things in exchange with others. If she does not accept: "Here in the last line your pattern of impulse and counter-impulse is resolved. At the top is 'temperance' 'a very beautiful map. It stands for both intuition and the ground of facts' both are in her Balance. You're coming back there. "

Non-stop brooding

What can I say: The witch turned my head in the best sense. I can completely accept 'what she said'. That's not my way at all – and that's probably why it's so redeeming. In the following weeks I was amazed at 'how easy it was for me' to cut my loop of thought 'just to stop' brooding on the subject 'that I couldn't get out of my brain for two years. A few days after visiting the "Hexerey", I sand down the worktop in the kitchen and decide to part with two cupboards. Once I ask myself 'could I have followed the cards so easily' if the answer had been different. May be. Shrug.

I don't recognize myself until I still want to flip the coin. Go or stay 'heads or tails? Well Which side should I assign to which decision? Something in me has absolutely no desire to continue playing this game. This click moment should arrive around July, 'said the witch. Then I'll toss the coin in August at the earliest.

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BARBARA 09/2020