psychology
Overthinking Queen?
8 sentences that we say to ourselves when we think about everything again
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Overthinking is your middle name? Do we know. Anyone who is sometimes big on rethinking everything tiny will find what they are looking for here.
What did I just say? What did he/she mean? Am I annoying my fellow human beings? Am I caring enough for her? And was the final decision really the right one? These are just five common thoughts that some of us may have caught ourselves thinking. At least those who clicked on this article because they were magically drawn to the word “overthinking queen”. Hello, welcome, you’ve come to the right place!
Thoughts are a marvel of our consciousness. Sometimes they make life a bit difficult for us. For example, when we suddenly question how we behaved after a day – even though everything was completely normal. When we ask ourselves at night what would have happened if we had chosen a different path three years ago – although there is nothing we can do about it anyway. And when we interpret more into a fellow human being’s sentence than the words count for.
The examples have one thing in common: our world of ideas will hardly change anything in reality. That’s why we can save them right away. But because this is much easier said than not thought, our brains could use a little training. As a practice unit we choose mantras. If we tell ourselves these very often, they will burn into our consciousness at some point – a thought tattoo, so to speak, that always pulls us out of our brooding spirals when we can use it.
8 sentences that help against overthinking
Others take themselves much more seriously than me.
When you’re wondering if you’ve behaved properly or been acting weird, a very simple reminder helps: most thoughts revolve around you far more than others – so that you often take notice of your own mistakes while others don’t once noticed. Perception is always subjective and often people forget unpleasant situations much faster than the ones they supposedly happened to.
When I think of a quirk in my best friend, I have to smile.
Honestly, when you think of your best friend, several quirks come to mind. But at the same time you have to smile when you think about it, because usually it is exactly these people that make a person really lovable. So will others with you.
Will I remember this problem when I’m 80?
Zoom out once, please! This question makes problems seem wonderfully small.
I don’t have to achieve anything to be lovable.
Similar belief: I am enough. Many of us are convinced that we have to achieve something in order to be liked. Let’s reprogram ourselves.
There is no such thing as a “But that’s how you do it” way.
Comparisons are the slide into the brooding spiral. For oneself it always seems as if everyone else would master life easier and better – that is a fallacy. At the same time, we probably wouldn’t be happy with the path others took, because there isn’t just one solution for everyone. Nobody has to love their own life as much as you do.
It’s okay to be scared.
Also helpful, because: the more we suppress the fear, the stronger it becomes. Let’s take a look at her and ask her what she’s trying to protect us from right now.
Millions of people are racking their brains just like me right now.
If we’re already in the overthinking boat, it’s very comforting to know that we’re not paddling alone. There are probably a lot of people right now who are racking their brains just like you are and trying to hide it from others.
If you stress yourself before a stressful appointment, you will achieve nothing but double the stress.
You have an important appointment in two weeks – but you’ve been worried ever since you made it. Of course, you can’t just turn your thoughts off. But this mantra helps us learn to stress only once—when the deadline comes, not before.
I want to live at peace with myself and my fellow human beings.
A wonderful principle for not always questioning yourself and your relationships: if you are always authentic, you have nothing to regret. Because that’s you, with quirks, certainly with mistakes – but full of honesty.