You know helicopter parents – but what exactly are "lawnmower parents" and why is this parenting style not good for parents and children?
Yes, of course it's not so great when parents are told AGAIN what they are doing wrong. After all, there are more than enough warning headlines in the media with which loving gesture parents are now again breaking everything and causing lasting damage to their children. Understandable when at some point many mothers and fathers just shrug their shoulders and have the feeling that they are doing everything wrong anyway. But in spite of this overstimulation, it is actually a good idea to check yourself whether you are perhaps the "lawnmower parent" – the problem is widespread and practically invisible to the parents themselves, precisely because they are particularly trying .
What does the lawnmower have to do with the child?
The catchphrase "lawnmower parents" naturally sounds pretty brutal at first glance; In fact, it means very loving behavior: the natural wish of all parents that their own child should have it as well as possible and have as few problems and crises as possible in their life. Sure – who wants their own child to be deadly unhappy? And this is where some parents quickly turn to the "lawnmower": They can see from a distance when a problem arises on the horizon and quickly get it out of the way. Like a lawnmower that clears the way for your own child.
Fewer problems are also a problem
That sounds like exemplary, committed parents – but in the long term you're not doing your child any favors. The bitter reality is: none of us can lead a life completely without conflicts, problems and crises. Dealing with it properly, overcoming difficulties and also dealing with negative emotions such as anger, sadness and frustration are important skills that we need throughout our lives. But how is a child supposed to develop all these talents when well-meaning parents don't even allow problems to be overcome? Therefore, it is better to leave your mental "lawnmower" standing more often – and be amazed at how well your child can cope himself in many cases and "mows his little lawn" independently.