Partnership: This “deadly relationship sin” has already committed every fourth German

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One in four Germans has already committed this “deadly relationship sin”

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What is the worst for you that your: e partner: could mortgage in your relationship? If you think like the majority, there is a 25 percent chance, according to a study, that he: she does it – or has already done it.

When we enter into a relationship, we always run the risk of getting hurt. Infidelity, psychological abuse through gaslighting, emotional blackmail or other things, constant arguments and clashing interests – partnerships harbor many dangers. Although we as humans are shaped to avoid risks and insecurities whenever possible, we usually gladly accept the risk of a broken heart for the chance of love over and over again. Probably because we secretly know and feel: It’s worth it. Because just renouncing love out of fear is certainly the more unfortunate path.

According to the survey: loyalty is most important to most in a partnership

On behalf of Playboy magazine, the Norstat opinion research institute conducted a representative survey of 1,000 men and women who determined the risk of: r partner: being cheated on: According to this study, it is around 25 percent. Although a solid majority of almost 74 percent of those surveyed rated loyalty as the most important thing in a partnership, almost every fourth admitted to having cheated on themselves at some point.

Perhaps surprising for some, perhaps as expected for others: While 78.4 percent of the women surveyed stated that they place great value on loyalty, but 26 percent said they had actually cheated before, only 68.5 percent of the men gave total priority to loyalty above a. 23.9 percent of the male participants admitted that they had already cheated themselves.

Women often have different reasons than men

As far as motivation is concerned, according to this study, men and women tend to tick differently: Of the self-confessed male cheating, a relative majority of 34.5 percent stated that they had / would become unfaithful for no specific reason – if the opportunity arises , they just couldn’t resist (or didn’t want to do it enough). In contrast, the majority of the unfaithful women surveyed stated that their motives for cheating were that they were unhappy with their relationship (32.6 percent), too little attention from their loved ones (21.5 percent) or that they had feelings for their sweetheart subsided (21.5 percent). Fittingly, more men seem to be able to classify an affair as a meaningless slip-up than women: 30.6 percent of the men surveyed would forgive their: m partner: in a fraud, of the women only 25.6 percent could.

Affair: confess or not confess?

A question that preoccupies many people after the slip: should I confess it to my loved one or should I not? Around 34 percent of those surveyed are of the opinion: Yes, you should be honest with infidelity – in reality, however, a majority of around 63.3 percent of infidelities keep their fraud secret. And how about solving this conflict between expectations of a partnership (loyalty) and the reality of life (it is obviously not that easy to be loyal) through more open relationship models? Not so good for most of the respondents: 56.1 percent of men and 77.7 percent of women stated that they generally prefer a monogamous two-person relationship and that they cannot imagine having several (sexual) partners at the same time.

What does that tell us now?

As interesting as the survey results and statistics are: Ultimately, it doesn’t matter to our lives whether every fourth, tenth or second person has cheated once, twice or three times and how important other people find loyalty in a partnership. For us, it is relevant whether the person at our side treats us well. Whether he respects and loves us, gives a sense of closeness and support – and whether all the positives that the relationship brings into our lives is worth compromising on, forgiving occasional hurts and living with the risk that ours Heart broken (maybe worst when that person dies). If the basis in a partnership is right, many questions and uncertainties almost resolve themselves. Sometimes differently than we would have thought beforehand. And often different from what the statistics would have predicted.

Source used: Playboy press release

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