Porn vs. Reality
Women report what they no longer want to experience in bed
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On the Internet platform Reddit, users share experiences from their beds that they would have preferred to have done without and plead for more intimacy and less pornography in the bedroom.
Anyone can watch thousands of porn anytime, anywhere. There is something for every taste and every fetish. What you see little, on the other hand, is real sex. Sex that is satisfying for everyone and creates closeness. The kind that is not about humiliation, where women are not penetrated to the point of unconsciousness and are only there to satisfy the man. And those in which mainly people with normal bodies can be seen. Mainstream porn has very little to do with reality. Most of us know that. But our children don’t know that when they watch the first little films in the schoolyard. Then porn is highly problematic. Because what they convey is much more than pure sex fantasy. It is an image of women. An ideal of beauty. An ideal of how sex should be that we don’t even want to live in real life.
Some things have to be different!
Although there are now quite a few producers and websites aiming at a more realistic representation of sexuality, mainstream porn is firmly anchored in our heads – women with operated breasts and operated children’s vulvae included. Women with whom the man can do anything he wants. Often it is about oppression and power, rarely about what women really like. The main thing is that she moans the man to orgasm. It is not really worth mentioning whether she will be there herself. And no, it is by no means satisfactory for many to have people sprayed on their faces or their head pressed onto the penis while they choke you off. The terrifying thing: It’s getting harder and harder. And that porn has long since landed in our beds, you can see if you look at the comments on the Internet platform Reddit, thousands of them under the question “Girls, what are guys doing in bed that you’ve seen in porn that you would wish they wouldn’t?” are to be read.
Insightful!
Around 8000 comments can be found under the question. And here are some of the responses from users. But also the many others are very worth reading.
A big issue is lack of foreplay. This is how the users comment:
“We need a bit of preparation to get in the mood and get wet. Otherwise, it just hurts.”
“Stop pounding us right away.”
or
“Mainstream porn is so bad in foreplay. The couple are just starting to kiss and suddenly their penis is already inside her.”
Porn is also often a bad role model when it comes to the clitoris. A mistake that is often made:
“Rubbing the clitoris like playing Guitar Hero!”
If it is found at all …
“When he says, ‘OH YES, DO YOU LIKE THAT ???’ while completely missing my clitoris.”
Also wild pounding on the clitoris, knocking, pinching, kneading, biting or the like does not go down very well with most women. After all, the clitoris is super sensitive and the touch should be accordingly gentle for most users.
The same applies to breasts:
“Don’t touch my chest so damn tight, bro!” is another point of criticism.
And: What is unfortunately not uncommon in porn, the users find rightly disgusting: “I don’t want to put your penis in my mouth after we had anal.” Beurkz …
And finally: “They think that after 2 minutes of penetration we will orgasm …” Unfortunately this usually does not work.
Source: Reddit.com