Dates in pregnancy?
Pregnant women receive absurd advice on love life
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A British woman posted an article on the Internet portal Mumsnet.com in which she reported that she was 15 weeks pregnant. The baby's father would like to have contact with his child, but that's all there is to it. She then asks the other users whether it would be absurd to meet now – and receives various pieces of advice.
The mother-to-be writes that the father of her baby would like contact with his child and that the two would meet for the examinations. However, they hardly talk to each other, they lack attention and togetherness in a relationship.
Is it that crazy to date while pregnant?
She therefore asks the other users whether it would be absurd to go on a date. She emphasizes that she is not looking for financial help or a stepfather for her baby, but that she is missing emotional support and a partnership in itself. She also considers telling her date that she is pregnant. Or do you prefer to wait?
She is advised to be open – and to take baby classes
Just a few minutes after she uploaded her post, answers are pouring into the woman. Most are convinced that they shouldn't hide their pregnancy from their date, but rather be open to them from the start. Others warn her about men with a fetish for pregnant women, while others advise her to go to parenting groups instead of dating or to pursue hobbies with friends when she feels lonely.
"Really not the time for online dating"
Many users write to the expectant mother that they prefer to use the time without a partner for themselves or to prepare for the child, instead of making everything even more complicated with a new relationship: "I can understand that you feel lonely at the moment, but now is really not the time for online dating ". Others find her post "bizarre" and wonder what she would hope for in a new relationship.
A lot of headwind, little encouragement: does that have to be?
One user asks cynically whether she could do without a man for a few months, another writes seriously: "Tell him and don't be surprised if he runs away". Well – at least that way, the lady already knows who she won't date. Whether pregnant or not, whoever runs away with such news, we don't want to meet them anyway. What is wrong with people? We are just asking ourselves when we discover a few positive voices.
They exist: the people who answer positively. They agree with women and insist on emancipation. After all, we wouldn't be in the 50s anymore – if she wants to go on a date, she should be able to do it.
We find: Whether pregnant or not – every woman should be able to (and be able to) decide for herself whether and when to date someone. And when it comes to honesty, you should be able to decide for yourself when to tell whom about pregnancy. Perhaps the 15th week of pregnancy is simply too early to worry about it – especially if it's just a casual meeting.
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