Psychology: 3 subtle warning signs that you put up with too much

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3 subtle warning signs that you are putting up with too much

There are people who always want to set the tone and say where to go. Others, on the other hand, submit to the wishes and needs of those around them, they may not really dare to say what is important to them or if something hurts them. As with so many things in life, it’s all about finding the right balance. Anyone who only perceives themselves and their own view is doing themselves just as little a favor as doing the opposite. However, if we constantly allow others to take advantage of us, it will definitely damage our relationships in the long run.

Basically, there is nothing wrong with adjusting to others and reacting empathetically to how the other person is feeling. In fact, it is an important part of social and emotional intelligence. But when we give others too much power over us and allow ourselves to be mistreated without putting that person in their place, a toxic relationship pattern quickly develops. And that can arise in partnerships as well as in friendships or completely different interpersonal relationships. This You should heed warning signs.

These subtle signs are signs that you’re putting up with too much from others

1. You find it difficult to formulate your needs

In order for others to know that something is bothering us or that we have certain needs, one thing is essential: that we tell them exactly that. Because nobody can read our minds. However, if you find it very difficult to formulate your wishes and feelings – maybe even to yourself – this is an unmistakable sign that you are letting yourself be done too much. Of course, it’s never okay to treat another person badly, but it’s also your responsibility to set clear boundaries for the person who isn’t good to you.

2. You downplay bad behavior

“Oh, it wasn’t that bad,” “I know he didn’t mean it that way” – do you often catch yourself with these or similar thoughts or statements? Constantly apologizing for and downplaying other people’s bad behavior can be a warning sign that you’re putting up with too much. The only way things can change is if you let the person know that the way they’re treating you isn’t okay. Your girlfriend is at least 20 minutes late for every meeting you meet? Stressful life or not – that’s disrespectful to you and your time. Downplaying this behavior to avoid the conflict will end up getting you both nowhere.

3. You are the backup plan

Maybe the man you just met only asks you at the last moment if you want to hang out with him. Or your girlfriend only answers about every third message and only contacts you when she needs help. Unfortunately, it cannot be glossed over: For these people, you are the back-up plan. The person who is always there when you need him, who doesn’t complain, but fortunately doesn’t make any demands either – how practical! If we don’t set clear boundaries, there will always be people who take advantage of us and don’t treat us the way we deserve.

Sources used: yourtango.com, psychologytoday.com

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