psychology
4 Traits of Emotionally Mature People
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How do we know that a person is emotionally mature? Especially these four characteristics and behaviors.
There are many types of maturity: physical maturity, i.e. our physical age, spiritual and mental maturity and, of course, emotional maturity. Someone can be in their 80s but still be emotionally toddler-like. This can be for a variety of reasons, but the most common reason is that such people have not learned to understand and process emotions – either their own or those of others. These are traits and habits that help you identify emotionally mature people.
These 4 qualities are shared by emotionally mature people
1. They can handle their feelings
Emotionally mature people can regulate their feelings. This does not mean that they control and suppress their emotions – on the contrary. They have simply learned that they have to allow and accept their feelings in order to process them. This is how they manage not to let their emotions get the better of them all the time, and they don’t control them.
2. You can forgive
Holding on to old grudges hurts us more than the person we are angry with or who hurt us. Emotionally mature people know this. Therefore, they do not hold on to such anger, but can forgive other people – and of course themselves. This way they can move on with their lives in peace instead of clinging to the past.
3. You take responsibility
Being able to take responsibility for your own actions is an important signal of emotional maturity. We all make mistakes and learn new things every day. Emotionally mature people understand this, so they have no problem admitting when they’ve done something wrong. On the other hand, shirking the consequences of one’s actions is a sign of immaturity.
4. You are realistic
Optimism is a very positive quality – but let’s not forget a certain amount of realism. Emotionally mature people see the world as it is. They have learned that there are certain things they cannot change. However, this does not prevent them from working on the circumstances that can influence them, and above all on themselves. An important quality of emotional maturity is the ability to distinguish between the reality we must accept and the aspects that are in our hands.
Sources used: gedankenwelt.de, theschooloflife.com