Psychology: 4 secrets of being in tune with yourself

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4 secrets of people who are in tune with themselves

There are certainly many different ways to come to terms with yourself and to find a reasonably stable, inner peace. The following points may help some people to find their own.

4 secrets of people who are in tune with themselves

You appreciate what is

The philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche once said: “By doing, we let go.” By traveling to the sea, we leave the mountains behind. By studying philosophy, we remain laymen in medicine and chemistry. By eating pizza tonight, we’re giving up pasta, hash browns, and cheese sandwiches. In fact, we do very, very little in our lives, leaving an almost infinite number of possibilities unrealized.

On the one hand, it can certainly worry, stress or sadden us. On the other hand, it cannot be avoided. We will always leave a lot more than we do. So we might as well choose a constructive perspective and acknowledge what is as something precious. Given all the many possibilities that could have been, but never will be or have been, reality is something very special, almost magical. She may not always be sunny or light. She may sometimes tempt us to wish or imagine that she was different. But it is what we really (experience) live. And celebrating and appreciating them for it can create a sense of harmony and peace in some people.

You set your own goals

Whether we are aware of it or not and whether we want to or not – our goals have an importance in our life that should not be underestimated. Short-term goals, which relate to the next few days, can motivate us and give us moments of happiness, while long-term goals, with which we plan for the next one to two years, give us support, orientation and a feeling of satisfaction. As human beings, we feel a natural need to organize and shape our future, and doing so is beneficial to our health. The “New York Times” authors Martin Seligman and John Tierney therefore suggested in a commentary that the term “Homo prospectus” be used instead of “Homo sapiens”.

Now some goals arise almost automatically from our life course: finish school, get an apprenticeship, complete apprenticeship and so on. But at some point we come to a point where we can decide for ourselves what is important to us: Do we want a partnership? Or children? Do we want to make a career and be professionally successful? Or do we want to be as little involved professionally as possible and have energy for other things? In our society we can now choose between very different life models and accordingly our personal goals can sometimes differ significantly from the goals of most other people.

Realizing that, being aware of this freedom and setting your own goals and values ​​accordingly, instead of following standard societal paths, can give some people the feeling of having found their inner balance and center.

They take care of and respect their bodies

Our body is the foundation of everything we think, feel and do. It is not just a tool or vehicle that gets us through life, but the source of our identity and personality. If we don’t get enough nutrients or sleep, move too much or too little, ignore symptoms such as pain or other abnormalities or suppress them with medication, then this affects our emotions and thoughts. When our body is stressed, we cannot be balanced and relaxed. Treating your own body in a benevolent and caring manner can therefore lead to an improvement in inner balance and harmony in many people, especially those who primarily place demands on their bodies.

You allow yourself bad phases

Here’s another real secret of people who are in tune with themselves: They aren’t in tune with themselves all the time. And don’t expect it either. Sometimes they are desperate, dissatisfied and disoriented, sometimes they go through phases in which they get upset about things that they can calmly accept in other phases. Then, instead of doubting themselves or telling themselves they’ve failed in life, they accept dark episodes as a natural part of their story and calmly and unexcitedly look for actions they can take to make themselves feel better soon.

In fact, scientists believe that as human beings, we are not designed to be content and balanced all the time (you can read more about this in our article “this is why we can’t stay content”). And that acceptance of such fluctuations can help us to deal with them in a healthier, more successful and more level-headed manner.

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Bridget